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^ r u saying that Allah SWT would approve flirtacious gestures to get the attention of a persone they were interested in ? just so that they could have a fling with that person, date 'em 4 a while and then move onto the next "interest"
arent you going to extremes here? she said that there "wasnt a Quranic verse telling us that we can't tell someone how we feel about them" ..who said anything about flirtacious gestures and flings?"....sheesh!
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I had an sms stalker for almost 5 months from december 2006 till around april 2007. 
She sms-ed me 10-15 times a day/night 
I still havent found out who she is Now she sms-es once a month or so
I did receive a weird phone call a few weeks ago. This girl scared the hell out of me 
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bill zyaada aa gya ho ga
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rotfl thats what I thought aswell
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^ r u saying that Allah SWT would approve flirtacious gestures to get the attention of a persone they were interested in ? just so that they could have a fling with that person, date 'em 4 a while and then move onto the next "interest"
That's where you're wrong. There is nothing obscene about this gesture. Its flowers. Not a bikini thong in sleezy wrapping paper with a cheap motel's phone number.
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The Quran also doesn't tell you HOW to pray... it just tells u to do so...
Islam is a way of life... if someone is interested in someone, then he/she should convey that interest in the proper manner... and as muslims, our "interest" should = marriage. there is nothing b4 or after it. having said that, most of these notions are flirtacious in nature and dont materialise to marriage anyway, so that is what makes them unislamic, as they may lead to sin (i.e. relationships outside the marriage).
Wassalam
Commendable post...
However PCG pursues a Islam in which dating is OK, Ahadith hold no value and basically anything she likes goes and anything she doesn't like doesn't...
But yeah, such offerings of love should not be taken lightly with textbook responses such as responding with throwing out the window or scolding them or if interested responding with the same method...
This requires that a Muslim lady should respond by telling the interested party to approach with means and methods that are prescribed if interested, otherwise not respond at all...
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That's where you're wrong. There is nothing obscene about this gesture. Its flowers. Not a bikini thong in sleezy wrapping paper with a cheap motel's phone number.
ummm, so what does the gesture of one MUSLIM giving another MUSLIM flowers mean? what is the outcome expected to be? if it just means " i fancy u ", then what is the next step? a date with the girl, a date with the girl's parents, or nothing (and if its nothing then what a waste of money, shouldv'e given the flowers to his Mum instead, at least dua to mil ga ti :) )?
Wassalam
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^ r u saying that Allah SWT would approve flirtacious gestures to get the attention of a persone they were interested in ? just so that they could have a fling with that person, date 'em 4 a while and then move onto the next "interest"
Oh, come on. That was uncalled for. Presuming the worst in people is a very ugly trait. You're demonstrating it right there.
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ummm, so what does the gesture of one MUSLIM giving another MUSLIM flowers mean? what is the outcome expected to be? if it just means " i fancy u ", then what is the next step? a date with the girl, a date with the girl's parents, or nothing (and if its nothing then what a waste of money, shouldv'e given the flowers to his Mum instead, at least dua to mil ga ti :) )?
Wassalam
Broken record. A coy sender of flowers might gamble that he be figured out...and dutiful daughter go home and express interest in her now not-so-secret admirer. Then things progress as normal. See? That wasn't difficult, was it? No dating, no sex...just good old fashion tradition with a twist.
Sending a flower can be nothing more than a subtle hint. The *only *way it could result in something sinful is if the person who received the flowers simply had no concern for religion anyway. So why the hell would anyone want to blame the poor old flower, or defame it's pretty little character?
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You’re assuming too much. Not all flowers are followed by steamy dates.
What, you think a girl can’t do a dua for a guy she fancies? Only his mum can? 
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PSG, give it up You v lost this one
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You're assuming too much. Not all flowers are followed by steamy dates.
What is the meaning of steamy dates ? Couldn't find in dictionary.
@ topic. Follow what your beliefs guide you, just make sure you are able to explain your intentions infront of your ultimate Lord on the day of judgement, because at that time neither we can dodge nor we can make unreasonable excuses.
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^ I'm not surprised you don't know what one is.
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^ I'm not surprised you don't know what one is.
And I wouldn't be surprised that you do...
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Given that I'm a married woman, hell yes I do.
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well thats ur opinion
well phoenix i never thought about it that way, he used to like me towards the end of grade 11 and beginning of grade 12 and i thought that those feelings would have subsided by now, well i can only hope so
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Ok well an update on the mystery flower giver:
I got a phonecall from his friend asking whether I’d be intersted in meeting or speaking to the ‘admirer’…when I asked why he himself wasn’t making the call, he said it was cos he was too shy and was scared he’d say the wrong thing…apparently, he saw me somewhere and has decided I’m the girl he wants to marry
But then, these guys also seemed to know way too much about me, like where I work etc etc which made me v uncomfortable…in the end I was kinda freaked and said thanks for the flowers and all, but I wasn’t interested in meeting this guy…
He was really persistent and wouldn’t take no for an answer and kept bugging me…saying they would come to my work etc then I got pretty scared and ended the call…
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you know pheonix when i was in paki a MARRIED guy from GS somehow got my WARID number and he is like hello u are aisha choudhry etc etc and he knew sooo much about me and i was like who the hell are you etc etc and he is like dont get the wrong impression i am MARRIED but just wanted to say i like you so can we be friends and i am like HELL NO! and then when i came to dubai i was like oh thank god he wouldnt know my dubai number and i got a message from some dubai number and i was like hello who is this and he said wahi SHADI SHUDA admi who offered friendship and i was like how the heck did u get my dubai number and he is like usi tarah jaisay WARID wala liya tha, i dunno how but many people can easily get my number which is very scary for me!!
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^^ that was a sick man aisha, be very careful with guys on GS.