Re: Secret Admirers...
The Quran also doesn't tell you HOW to pray... it just tells u to do so...
Islam is a way of life... if someone is interested in someone, then he/she should convey that interest in the proper manner... and as muslims, our "interest" should = marriage. there is nothing b4 or after it. having said that, most of these notions are flirtacious in nature and dont materialise to marriage anyway, so that is what makes them unislamic, as they may lead to sin (i.e. relationships outside the marriage).
Wassalam
Islam isn't that evil a religion, don't make it seem as if its against all notions of love and is out there to restrict your options and curb our freedoms.
If its not flirtatious and the person is indeed interested then I don't think there is any harm in either talking it further (of course to something constructive, that is marriage) or gracefully declining the proposal (whether its for friendship, marriage or mere relationship).