Getting back on topic, if by bad you mean if it’s wrong, then no it isn’t. As to why it’s not practiced, well I know that maintaining a standard of living is a major factor among some Arabs, on top of ensuring fairness between multiple wives. Otherwise, its practice in general requires hard work to ensure that one is being fair in this type of situation and it is an added burden on the man. As to why it isn’t accepted (or maybe encouraged is a better word here) among desis, I would guess is the lack of confidence in the men’s ability to act justly between multiple wives while maintaining a certain standard of living. Of course since it isn’t the norm in the culture (unlike some others), it will also be looked at as something that is out of the norm.
It’s never going to work well in our culture when the wife is traditionally expected to live with in-laws.. Can you imagine on top of that the husband going off to live and sleep with another woman at least 50% of the time.. Our women (or women in general) I expect would not be able to tolerate that after making the huge sacrifice of living with his family and looking after them, whilst he isn’t even going to be living there himself at least half the time and will be sleeping with someone else..
I don’t doubt it can work in certain situations, but our system already places a greater burden on the wives, I think this would push many to absolute breaking point..
I guess it would be more complicated in a situation where the wives would hypothetically live with the in-laws, particularly requiring the man to provide separate quarters for each of the wives. The few cases that I know of a man in multiple marriages this isn’t the case in any of those arrangements.
What does my post have to do with slavery? =/ But since you’ve mentioned it now, I encourage you to look up the statistics of human trafficking in the US/Europe etc. Forget that - just look at how corporations operate in third world countries. If they’re not perpetuating hordes of modern-day slaves, then idk what they are.
The point of my post was to provide context to why polygamy was more popular in the rest of the world vs the West. It doesn’t make polygamy better than monogamy… or vice versa. If it works in the West for hundreds of years, sure, then monogamy def has pros. But if polygamy has also worked for hundreds of years in other societies, then it must have some benefit to that group in that specific context. Rather than labeling all differing ways of life (from the Western model) as barbaric, try to understand them and you might see why people do what they do.
Also - what is it with your creepy love-affair with the West? It’s perfectly OK to acknowledge that the Western model has flaws, and the entire system in general has committed heinous acts in the rest of the world. It won’t make you less Amreekan, trust me.
Men and women are born in same ratios and polygamy is immoral and not sustainable and is a practice from times when women were considered property, in its current shape it would have gender bias where a man can have 4 and a woman can only have one. It was okay to marry 4 and have sex with numerous sex slaves but we have evolved. There isnt a man on earth who can physically satisfy multiple women. Most men would not wish it on their daughters, mothers, sisters etc so how can it be considered okay.
Anyone who came here is because they did prefer west compared to their eastern countries they chose to leave. I am committed to human rights and principles of humanism and not necessarily whites.
Since OP is asking from a perspective of the second women, I would if she is fine to marry a married man, then there isn’t anything wrong with it from her perspective. First wife is not her obligation nor is she responsible to keep her home intact.
Oh my God, how dense are you? I was giving you a context for WHY polygamy was practiced and it’s definitely not what you think. Please do some research on it - not some random polls. Proper research. No one is saying polygamy is better - monogamy and polygamy have their pros and cons. Each work for different societies under different contexts. And LOL - so no man would wish multiple wives on their daughter/mother/sister, but in the West (where serial monogamy is the trend, not true monogamy like your delusions seem to make you believe) they’d be totally fine with a man having a wife, cheating on her, divorcing her and repeat… and most men do this, in the West women are more loyal than men. Stop making one seem better than the other cos the list is long… each “pro” you have will have an equal con. Try to understand why each thing is practiced in different cultures. Do whatever you want to - but stop demonizing something just bcos you don’t understand it.
From your posts it doesn’t seem so - you never criticize the Western model, nor can you stand others criticizing the Western model. Even perceived slights seem to trigger you. Which is fine if you have the research and facts to back it up, however you simply flaunt something as “better”… because… why? =/ My family migrated to the US for financial reasons - I was born here, and I love the US but ideologically, is the US any better than Pakistan? Not really. Hell, Neo-Nazis can run rallies and people will defend their right to free speech (just do a quick Google search). I dare you, as a brown-skinned man to say the EXACT same things that neo-Nazis do… you’d be at Gitmo before you could blink your eyes. So please stop the pretentious “humanism” and “human rights” spiel and say it like it is - you wanna be white. It’s fine if that’s the case, just don’t go around pretending to be objective and principled.
Lots of emotions and personal attacks but light on logic and maturity, I doubt if you know any western people on a personal level, my house is teeming with white kids and every single time it is the girls who are cheating on boys. I deal with scores of divorced people and mostly it is women who initiate separation here. I see guys bawling their eyes out and begging them to stay. I have a better life than the majority here and haven’t really felt any discrimination except from browns and Chinese. When arguments fail than personal attacks come out lol. No my dear whites arent like you and don’t throw fits and become abusive when they come across difference of opinion. It really is an era of gender equality and women here choose not to be treated as cattle.
Anecdotal evidence =/= reality, Bobby putthar. I hope you went to college? Or some form of higher education? A Nazi held a rally in front of my house, I encounter 100s of Nazi-supporting American posts on the internet. Therefore, all of America is filled with Nazis.
See? It doesn’t work, Bobby. And WHY would you mention your house is teeming with “whites”? Lmao. I went to high school with 99% white people, all my friends are white. … SO WHAT?! You continue to prove my point lol. Someone give this guy an “honorary white man” badge. Might counteract the low self-esteem.
^ That was a personal attack, btw. I simply asked some questions in my previous post (none of which you answered… odd). But your comprehension levels are pitiful, at best, so I forgive you. Enjoy your fantasy world of white men, buddy.
So not a single Pakistani woman would want her husband gawking at women in search of a second, third or fourth wife but that is your culture and just because no woman wants it for herself, no girl would want her daddy to bring a second, third or fourth mother, not a single father would want it on her daughter, not a single brother would want it on his sister but yeah it is your society and you know it is right for your society. So why are there more young men than young women in Pakistan, if god meant for men to have more than one wife..he would have created a lot more females.
Lol..just answer this question, by your definitions every married man in that society is still single times 3 so why should he stop gawking, flirting, hunting etc?
What has nazis got to do with polygamy? they probably share your views that women are trash and man have dominion over them and they can screw many while she is supposed to cook and clean and raise his kids.
Or do you mention nazis because playing victim is so rewarding..lol.
And there is no fantasy and wishful thinking I already have lived an amazing and happy life.
Bobby, did you have one of the hundreds of thousands of whites “teeming” (use better word choice, my friend… this conjures images of pest infestations) in your house write this for you? Slight improvement in grammar and sentence structure - not much, but slightly better. It’s went from “desperate-South-Asian-wannabe-white-man” to “desperate-South-Asian-wannabe-white-man’s-random-single-white-friend”.
Where did i mention God wanting polygamy to be the norm? The only way you could have come up with that is if, surprise, you have some negative bias that causes a knee-jerk reaction where you bash anything non-Western society related. I have never stated one system being better than the other, i’ve reiterated again and again that poly/monogamy both have pros and cons to various societies - NEVER mentioned Pakistan practicing or not practicing it… so again, there’s your knee-jerk brown-skin-self-hatred coming through. Learn to understand WHY other cultures are different - no culture (or its practices) is better than any other.
And Nazis have nothing to do with polygamy, omg, did you actually get the point? reads the rest of your post… No. Failed. Also, love how you automatically take the worst cultural assumptions/gender roles regarding women and automatically assume I believe that. SO open-minded, Bobby.
I applaud you, Bobby Troll. Takes real dedication and effort to do this.
My cultural assumptions are typically based on someone like you..and you seem to fit the narrative the Nazis use to their advantage to tell the public that immigrants hate this society. Please don’t worry about my writing skills, the lady who comes to clean my house has a degree in English.