Bobby1
July 24, 2017, 11:31pm
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Re: Second wife =home wrecker always?
Lmao. Uhmmm…“moral” does not necessarily have to mean “equal” sir. Even “just” does not have to mean “equal.” And please don’t get side-tracked here (as you typically do) and start throwing out examples of child marriages and mutah and falana tamkana.
Let’s stick to the issue at hand, shall we? Do you consider the image of a woman going from one husband to the next to the next…a decent thing? If it does not disturb you at all, then something is wrong with you. You might see such an arrangement as “female empowerment”…but it really…(and pardon my bluntness) …it makes that wife look like the “btch” of all those men. Allah has made men and women DIFFERENT in terms of their physical strength and their psychological/emotional makeup…and that’s why it’s a folly to have the same exact equal rules for both genders in everything…because that fails to take into consideration their unique limitations…and that is the opposite of justice, sir.
Now, let’s look at the hadith you quoted. The Prophet SAWS said “By Allah the daughter of the Messenger of Allah and the daughter of the ENEMY of Allah will not be joined as wives of the same man.” That makes sense to me. The Prophet SAWS never saud that Hazrat Ali AS better not marry ANY other woman. He made a specification…He said the daughter of the ENEMY of Islam. It kinda changes things. The family of your ENEMY living in close quarters with you…can be a very dangerous thing.
What exactly is your motive for putting forth this hadith? It’s possible that Hazrat Fatima AS herself would not want to remain married to her husband if he took on another wife. And if the Prophet SAWS’s wives had demanded a divorce from him if he took on another wife…he doesn’t strike me as the kind of man that would keep them against their will; He would have given them the choice to leave. A father knows his daughter. He must have known that Fatima AS did not have it within her to handle a second wife and so he might have even expressed his daughter’s desire on her behalf. And Hazrat Ali (AS) out of his love and regard for the messenger did not carry this out. You know, even prominent Western figures were in awe of the Prophet SAWS character and they did not get hung up on his multiple marriages or the age of his wives. They looked at the Prophet SAWS’s character on the whole. So, look at him on the whole.
Also, baby steps. First we need to work on not looking down on spinsters before we graduate to championing polyandry.
There can be mitigating situations where mujtahids can say that under current circumstances the men cant guarantee equality, or that the harm from multiple marriages is more than the benefit and withdraw the right to multiple marriages. We don’t accept slavery today, it was accepted before. Or there can be stringent legal requirements and the first wife given guarantees in financial settlements and support in case of injustice. A person reaping what they sow is just a person bearing the consequences of their behavior. If I was alone because I was a horrible person then I would take accountability and blame it on my horrible behavior.