I’ve been to weddings where it’s the second wedding for either both, or just the girl and I’ve seen it all being done again. People throw all the dholkis again, mehndi, barat and walima …
How is it when you have kid? I know it’s different and depends on who it is etc, but I find it so strange that mom’s do it all again … it makes no sense to me .. is that normal? … I know a mom, she has two boys, and she’s doing it all again .. it’s just seems SO weird to me …
When, or if I ever decide to get married again, I think just a simple Nikkah will do … with only immediate family and maybe a few friends…
^ I'm not sure why you think it's weird. If a woman is getting married for the second time and wants to celebrate the beginning of a new chapter of her life (and beginning of a new chapter for her kids if she already has any), then I'm not sure why that would be weird or abnormal.
Besides, weddings, especially desi ones, aren't always done based solely on the bride's preferences. If the guy and/or his parents wants a proper wedding......if the girl's parents/family want a proper wedding.....then what's wrong with the girl giving in to their wishes if she's not repulsed by the idea?
The mom with you know with 2 boys.....do you know whether doing it all again was HER idea? Or was it driven by her/his family?
Even with you.....if a guy and/or his family insisted on "doing it all" for a wedding, would you refuse to marry the guy based ONLY on this?
Who cares? Let them do whatever they want, no $$ coming out of your pocket is it. You want a simple wedding, go for it, but nothing wrong in a fancy wedding either.
^ I'm not sure why you think it's weird. If a woman is getting married for the second time and wants to celebrate the beginning of a new chapter of her life (and beginning of a new chapter for her kids if she already has any), then I'm not sure why that would be weird or abnormal.
Besides, weddings, especially desi ones, aren't always done based solely on the bride's preferences. If the guy and/or his parents wants a proper wedding......if the girl's parents/family want a proper wedding.....then what's wrong with the girl giving in to their wishes if she's not repulsed by the idea?
The mom with you know with 2 boys.....do you know whether doing it all again was HER idea? Or was it driven by her/his family?
Even with you.....if a guy and/or his family insisted on "doing it all" for a wedding, would you refuse to marry the guy based ONLY on this?
You have a point there ... make's sense .. still seems odd to me ...
Why does it not make sense to you, OP?
In our family sometimes it's been just nikah and other times a full-on wedding, it's down to personal preference..
People shouldn't feel they can't or shoudn't celebrate imo
Growing up, everyone always kept the 2nd weddings low-key, maybe that's why it seems so strange to me ...
I am not sure why it needs to kept it low key as if the couple remarrying are committing a crime. If they are happy, they can celebrate whatever way they want.
I have been to a wedding where the bride was marrying for the third time and the groom the second. Both had grown up kids. The bride's side had a mehndi.
Just because we all go OTT unnecessarily the first time that shouldn't dicate what they do the second time. 90% of first timers are throwing money on useless stuff as it is. Maybe the bride and groom are much happier this time around. Besides they're probably also operating on the log kya kahen gay syndrome. Some families, in laws would be totally against seedha saadha.
And now I get to tell you about my mum getting married earlier this year :D. She didn't have a mehndi because she didn't have the money for it and I didn't want to pitch in for the mehndi part. If only I hadn't just quit my job to start school full time.
She didn't have cash lying around for the wedding either so I offered to pitch in. I thought(still do) it was a good idea to select a decent venue even if we had to sacrifice on the number of people we could invite. People remember these kinda things and you don't wanna get taunted for having your wedding under a tent in front of your house. Her husband was balling, they had a great venue for the Walima and a lot of guests. We couldn't outdo them but like I said the venue wasn't bad.
I couldn't go to Pakistan to attend the wedding :(. Stupid reasons. But my sister attended the wedding and so did the groom's kids. I got to see the pictures though.
In other news my mum is putting on weight like crazy. I gotta go back soon and have a talk with her about that.
Awwwwwww What a story.
How is sister doing at daddi?
When is sister getting married?
She's doing okay. She's a strong kid so she'll be okay. She's working on school right now. We don't have anything planned for her just yet and she hasn't said anything about her having her own plans either.