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so.... you're the victim in all of this?
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What a sad situation. I won't cuss you. I feel sorry for your wife.
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Here's another point to consider: You're in Moscow where you don't have the responsibility of a child/wife. Your evenings are free...where you can go for strolls with this other woman and watch movies with her, etc. These were things that you enjoyed doing with your wife. Keep in mind that if you were to have a family with this other woman....you'll again experience a shift in priorities. Children take up a lot of your time, but you have to MAKE time to spend with your spouse...where it's just the two of you. That could entail getting a friend/relo/babysitter to watch your child...or perhaps HELPING your wife out with chores at home so she feels less exhausted and will have more time to spend/connect with you. Have you tried doing that at all? Relationships require a conscious effort.....and that's something you'll ALSO have to deal with even if you were to marry a 2nd, 3rd, 4th wife. That's not gonna go away. Again, think everything through. I understand that the emotions/attraction are complex matters....but if your wife actually loves you.....as in more than "cares" for you....I feel bad for her.
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is that precondition to you educating me about islam??
Uh yeah.
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Uh yeah.
you no different than molvies.........if u don't know.......just say so.......
PS......i do whatever you mentioned in that post.....
now tell me.......what reason is specified/prohibited in the quran for second marriage...
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OMG, what if Nutwer shows up again?
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Maybe that 'care' for your wife actually turned into love, and you can't actually comprehend it. The thing you have with this new girl is probably just a feeling of thrill. However, I hope you know that this feeling will just wear off soon. Then what are you going to do? Marry again?
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he was a good bloke…only one who could challenge u…
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The only reason a woman wud agree to live in polygamy would be either complete financial dependence on her spouse, or a huge family pressure, or the fact that she feels she must do so for her children. I feel really sad for your wife. I hope her father has her back. She will b in my prayers.
And breath....
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Acha, and while you're at it, please OP ko bhi kuch sikhaa do.
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you really don’t know…do you??
evasive statements…
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Read the verses on polygamy and then talk. You're not supposed to marry out of lust. You're not supposed to HURT your partner. It's all there in the Quran. If you only read it once in a while.
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but ur only about 22/23 yeah? (OP)
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Maybe I'm demented in some way, but I can understand how you feel. There's nothing wrong with what you're feeling, and as a Muslim you're allowed to marry again. As long as you know what you're getting into. As RV stated, there's a lot of responsibilities that come along once you go from bf/gf to husband/wife...it won't be as rose-colored as it seems now. Add kids into the equation and now you've got to deal your time between your children, your wives, and your job/social life blah blah. It's really tough. Make sure you know exactly how you feel. Try and change things up with your wife - go out on walks, do things you enjoyed doing with her or try something different. If you still feel the need for the other woman...then think it through. You'll have to live with this decision for the rest of your life and so will your children. If you're sure that this is the decision you want to make, then please tell your wife everything. How you've felt from the beginning and why you want to take this step. Assure her that you won't be doing her any wrong, and will maintain the same relationship as before with her.
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2 pages already 
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HAH! …riiiiight. 
Now watch Monk saunter in here and defend his “brother,” lol. 
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Assure her that you won't be doing her any wrong, and will maintain the same relationship as before with her.
he can assure her all he like, it's not gna b the same. He is already so patronising towards her and he hasn't even married this other girl yet.
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monk kaha se aa gya?? 
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The only reason a woman wud agree to live in polygamy would be either complete financial dependence on her spouse, or a huge family pressure, or the fact that she feels she must do so for her children. I feel really sad for your wife. I hope her father has her back. She will b in my prayers. And breath....
Might be a tiny percentage but some women are willing to share their husbands with a second wife because they really do love them regardless.. same can be said of some women who stay with their husbands (and not just the rich ones) even when they have mistresses/gfs on the side.. I do think the vast majority are as you described tho..