Second Marriage?

[lahoretolondon]

Re: Second Marriage?

@redvelvet

Yes, I am persistent. But you have to understand that without telling us this information…it would have just made you appear flaky. Have you tried telling her in a very straightforward way (don’t sugar-coat it)…something along the lines of “I’m find it difficult to connect with you because you don’t open up to me. You don’t share your thoughts/feelings/whatever. And it’s making me feel frustrated with this marriage.” You try that?

Cuz if you’re ONLY asking her “what’s wrong?” and not letting her know how her behavior is making you feel…then she probably thinks it’s no big deal …that it’s ONLY her problem and that it has no effect on you…and that pretending to be happy will make things better for the both of you.

If you ALREADY sense that she’s hurting in some way (the crying during the middle of the night, the pretending everything is perfect, etc)…then …unless she doesn’t feel much for you…wouldn’t it hurt her even more if you spring a second marriage on her?

Have you tried asking her family members to help you out?

I’ve told her all my thoughts, she doesn’t open up, it’s like the opposite of battered wife syndrome, I try and tell her the faults and mistakes we’ve made in connecting emotionally, she just ends the conversation with “well I love you now and that’s all that matters…” ffs I tried to get her to not bottle up her emotions, when her brother died she barely showed any emotion at all, I cried for three days straight when I heard the news, she didn’t even sob, she just stayed in emotional shock.