Re: scared to go to pakistan
I can understand how it feels, trust me when I say I do the same but people still talk… My MIL’s sister is the worst at spreading gossip about me BUT don’t let it get to you. Remember that it’s a short trip, there’s a wedding (use that to your advantage and get involved with whatever you can do and time will fly). The only reason I say your husband shouldn’t really get involved in this is because he can’t really do anything in an aurton wala mamla anyways… I mean it’s crazy to assume your MIL is going to talk bad about you in front of him, so he doesn’t see it. I would just let it go.
I’m not saying be a doormat, but like you said if they talk behind your back then there isn’t much you can really do. If you want to confront her, chances are she won’t exactly be truthful about it and ask you who told you this and then it’ll just create a bigger mess. So to avoid further problems with her, I would just get involved in the wedding planning/shopping, talk minimally about family politics and never talk bad about anyone. If you suspect they are gossiping about someone, change the topic or simply get busy with something else. Please remember you can’t change how she is, and to get caught up into why she doesn’t like you or why she is the way she is - is just going to make you stressed out. Some people are just the way they are and refuse to change or look at their actions, so it’s best to let it go. Be happy with your kids, enjoy your time there and people (smart ones) judge a person by their actions and words, not by what other people tell them. They will see for themselves how you are.