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Legacy..yeh...I think we are gettin in that "like"stage...for the first time in my life I'm tempted, honestly, it's never really crossed my mind before...but today I've been thinking about it over and over again.
If I give in, I'll feel guilty but I know I'll be hooked ...and if I don't I'll always wonder ...wht if it I did.
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..even if he;s 72 and toothless.
LK, don't mean to hurt ya but I think you leave yourself vurnerable. There is a timeframe to everything in life. You can't change it so don't be making godly claims. To me this sounds like 'I am an option and you can always come back after you've failed on other venues' typa thing. No one is ever an option. kapeesh?
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Hmm well I only said it to get a laugh outa him...
But I get what you're saying, yes I am vulnerable...I wish i was stronger, I;ve always been liek this, when I make this mental commitment to someone it's like no holds barred, I'd do anything and everythign they'd ask for...no matter how much time, energy or patience it requires.
I;m teh kinda lady who'd forgive her husband if he betrayed her.
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LK, that's all fine and good. Nothing wrong with that but you want to cross a certain point FIRST before opening up like that. But if you do that before crossing that point then you'll scare the other person away even if there was potential.
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LI - My husband has beening trying to teach me Urdu for a few years now. So far, I definitely know how are you. He gave up in frustration. On this site, I did find out how to say childish or you act like a child, lol, seems to be said a lot. Picking up phrases here and there, but mostly I sound them out for my husband and he translates. There is also a site called Urduword.com that is pretty good.
Thank you for the kind words though and the offer, lol
LK, since you know that about yourself, then you know to protect yourself twice as much. The only reason it is sticking with you is because it is a temptation to you. You dealt with it well. Now, let it go.
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Yeh I did that once before..won’t do it again… I hope!
Ths conversation we had was a mix of fun, seriousness and a bit fo teasin…so nothign to heavy duty…well not for him atleast.
I’m not gonna give it another mention, and just proceed with things as usual…we both need time.
Thanx for your time and advice Roman…
I appreciate it
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LK, no problem. Now, can we have sex, please? :(
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this guy thinks you’re really cheap if he even asked you that 
thats sick and sums up exactly what he wants from you…and how much respect he has for you…and you are being equally as CHEAP by saying that you would…
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Dont do a thing if you aint got that ring!
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Strange, asks about sex upfront, doesn't get the desired response so he proceeds to spill the standard hurt past sob story about why he can't commit. Hmmmm.
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LK 
I would keep a distance. If he has made it clear that he has no intentions of going long term he really shouldn;t be asking you the question. Hell he should be asking you that anyway. That wasn;t a very gentlemanly question.
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Yeah...tell him about that whole wedding bit please. Then watch his face..."wedding...what do you mean...are u kidding me...no"
Then you wont feel like having sex with him anymore.
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Sure thing Roman…now hurry up and get baptised.
Majestic…yep you bet…don;t worry I don;t have the guts to kiss leave alone sex.
Impluse…I say what I feel…I’d love to have sex with him..after I marry him, he’s probably the only one I;ve ever thought of in that respect..my hormones must be going mad…cheap…okie yeah..call it what you want..you’re intitled to your opinion.
Femme - it’s sort of an insier joke between us this issue of sex…and me being a virgin and all..like I said it started out funny..and as for him askin me…well the previous day I in jest said he was all talk and no action…I prolly provoked him.
PCG - I did say weddin…like 5 months ago when we first joked about it…h esaid he’s “not the marrying kind” and I said “well your loss”
Anyways I was confused yesterday…not today though…
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He quite clearly was asking or checking out the possibility of getting “it”.
Just remember two things what he said
"Love is a strong word and I've been hurt before, don't think I want to get into it again. I find you very attractive.."
and
"men" LOVE to make love, women make love to get LOVE....
You say you want to mend his broken heart and you probably hope that you can get him to wed you before he bed you but from the looks of it he does not seems to be interested in the wedding part. He is not even in the “I love you and but I cant marry you” category yet. Bluntly put his asking you direct means either he is so damn sure of your feelings about him that he took a risk or the risk was not risky for him. I mean I would never take such a chance so early if I was interested in a lady. So be warned and don’t you go opening male bashing threads afterwards...
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Paindoo I never bash men, I'll end up bashin myself though.
Yeh he's not interested, I know that, else having somethign as simple as lunch coudl have been an option, but he's never tried. Oh well...next!
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I believe the above two statements summarize the whole thing:
First being a statement of selfishness and immorality for that matter.
Second being the depiction of control and morality.
Now I am just classifying the statement and not judging anyone.
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He doesn't want to be in love but still he wants to make love to you? Strange. The next time he sees you ask him how can he make love to someone he doesn't love and just "likes" because she's attractive.
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He wants to sleep with you, but you want more. Thats a dangerous zone, think about the aftermath. How will it change things between you? Will you regret it? What does it mean for him? What does it mean for you? If your goin in two different directions, don't do it because it just means hurt and pain in the long run. You will feel used and he would have got what he wanted. It's your call..:) Good luck!
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i know i am very young to reply this thread but still being mature guy in this age i will say do not go for this not at all :)