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LK, be flattered. Be happy and glad. but as most say, keep on guard...you can giveit only once, you know that very well. But its nice to have someone who seems to want to truly share that experience, that first time, with you. Definitely flattering to you. Just take your time and make sure you make the right choice for YOU. :)
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btway I know you are very smart.... I cant ever see you falling for such a lame person.
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mama it won't be thr first time for him.
LB...yeh...sex without love is like TV without a cable connection.
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I;m pretty lame when it comes to relatioships, I;m a lioness outside one, and in one I tend to become a “let me do everythign for you, let me love you, why don;t you just sit back and let me do it all for you”
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Sex is something that should come later. Your partner needs to be more than just be in love with you. There should be a spiritual and deep connection before intimacy should ever come into the picture.
Also, I think he's just testing you to see how far you are willing to go. Be careful.
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LK, seems to me that you'll do JUST FINE on your own! Trust yourself and what you want....you will make your parents proud of you and you proud of yourself.
(but its nice to be "wanted" isnt it??)
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Diva, that's personal choice. But the point here is that this guy and LK don't seem to be on the same page. That's wrong. If they both want the same thing whether it's one night stand or something deeper then that's fine. So someone bound to get hurt out of this.
LK, you probably need to hang out a bit more with the guy without expecting or obsessing one thing over the other and taking it easy meanwhile. If you're overbearing or overwhelming then you'll make a mess out of this.
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Guys have the same problem too. Sometimes we fall for the, as you say, lame person. Please define what’s lame and what’s un-lame. Thanks.
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mama..you’re a real good mama, when you say it like that I knwo exactly what I have to do..
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Roman you;re right, we’re not on the same page…haven;t been over bearing or overwhemling until now and don’t plan to…as long as he’s stuck on teh one night stand page…I ain’t interested.
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Funnily enough the song that's stuck in my head is that Def Leppard number
"Have you ever needed someone so bad?"
lol
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LI - the whole, I was hurt before, never do that again, not looking routine. Drive most girls batty with the need to mend and be the one who helps him and be the ONE who saves him. Meanwhile, later, he uses the old "Well, I told you upfront ......" after taking what he can.
That being said, this doesn't mean he is like that, I was just trying to say, very nicely, to be careful. You are way too sweet, LK, you deserve more than a man who talks this way before really knowing you.
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Diva,
everybody talks about the spiritual, deep connections, and the cosmic inversions that make people resonate in unison in the throes of vigorous games of polo. Yet no two people can agree on what it all means. Deep connection is such an abused word in the contemporary parlance. Don’t you think we need understand and empathy more than a “magical” deep connection?
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PS: Why do people over complicate matters?
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LK, in that case take a break and let go of it. Give him and yourself some time. See what that yields. But be clear about what you're looking for. Don't leave him guessing and extrapolate on what you meant or want. May be he will turn around and see you differently and ask himself if that's what he wants too. After that if it's still the same thing then foggatboutit!
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Shucks minah..I never thought of it that way..this need to “mend” is so very true..fudge!
Minah well, the way he talked..hmm..it started off as a joke really…so we were both being a bit “bad”
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I tend to disagree with you LB. Its same for men mostly. We girls often blame them for being so animal like but thats unfair. If, for any reason, men establish sexual relationships outside marriage I have known that such relationships are purely basal. They do not enjoy it the way we think they do. Thatswhat I have learnt in the psychological surveys I have myuself been part of once.
LK, I think you two are beginning to like eachother. In that if he has asked for it, he probably means it so like most of others have advised you, I do the same. Its in your hands to make it happen or not. Be advised that the consequences are subject to your wishes so be careful.
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I vuv your posts.
I feel like giving you a tutorial on Urdu vocabulary. I really do. 
Are you an apt pupil?
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Finally someone sane.
You should post more often.
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Well he knows he’s someone I’d get intimate with
He knows I want it to be something done out of love
And i told him if he ever decides to open up his heart once he’s healed to give me a shout..even if he;s 72 and toothless.
So I think it right about sums up my intentions..yes?
From tomorrow, back to the usual, pal pal talk.