Soo err..yeah..I was faced with a really tricky situation yesterday..
He asks me "Would you ever do “it” with me?’
So I asked, “Do you even like me?”
He replies..“Yes, you’re very sweet”
“You think you could ever love me?”
He says “Love is a strong word and I’ve been hurt before, don’t think I want to get into it again. I find you very attractive..”
After 15 seconds of scilence I said.. “Yes I would do “it” with you, how, when and where, however, is another question.”
“What do you mean?” he asks.
To which I said “There’s a time and place for everything…I like you, you’re a good man, you have a good honest heart, not many as breath taking as you around…well not for me atleast”
He smiled.
Anyways..I dunno where this leaves me, I wasn’t lying when I said I’d love to be with him…make love..all that. (however it would have to be after a good ol weddin). Thing was he had a dead straight serious look on his face…I dunno if I should be scared, embaressed or what.
I agree with Cat-Woman. You guys haven't even established what the two of are yet (or maybe you have and I'm just out of the loop). I mean, are you guys officially dating, together, in a relationship? I would be on guard like Catty suggested. I would be weirded out if a guy started talking to me about physical stuff right off the bat.
Eek! No matter how much I liked a guy, if he said that to me, I'd be so offended. I don't know...maybe I'm being immature or whatever. I don't think he has a right to ask you this. Like Cat-woman and Mehnaz said, be on guard. I don't mean to say he's a bad person. Who knows, maybe he's trying to test you to see where he stands, or how much you like him. But just be careful. :-)
see it started off with me tellin him about how m pal let me drive his car..and this car frined of mine has this line "driving is better that sex"...anyways
So we were both laughin about it all and then it came to that, but somewhere in the middle it got serious.
No catty we're not in a relationship and not even dating..
Minah you're right...he had always made it clear.not just to me but everyone knows hes a man who's been hirt and doesn;t want to go through it again.
Wish I knew what I could do to mend that broken heart..
LK, what the heck is this? Some kinda pseudo-transcript to A Farewell to Arms??? You sound too dreamy about this whole thing. Snap out of it Ms Barkley!
That is a pretty pathetic question to ask. How old is he, 16? Dump the stud muffin.
What do you like about him anyways? I know you are sucker for looks and all. :-p
Waisay, I won’t be surprised if you tell me that his lines are yours and vice versa
I say smooth because he knows she likes him, and he suggests having sex while indicating that he’s not into having anything longterm.
I guess he’s just being honest that he doesn’t want to commit, but then why suggest the sex? Unless he was joking around and both of you were laughing about it.
Difficult to make judgements when you don’t know the intricacies of the story. So perhaps he isnt a smoothie, I dont know. I form opinions from what Im told.
LB trust me I won’t, warm feelings are one thing, but I’d either be racked with guilt after it…or go back for seconds…knowing myself it would probably be both and in that exact order.
Yeh catty it did start off as a joke and went serious when I mentioned the "love" word, but somewhere in there he seriously now knows how I feel about him, coz I told him..whenever he decides to open up his heart again.. to give me a call..even if he's 72 and toothless.
Sex for guyz is different then Sex for girls
Women cannot Just have sex, it comes with emotional attachments, be it before or after sex, where as a guy can just have sex and not get emotional.
You are viewing the situation from a woman's prospective. He asks for bout sex, you dive into your heart and start evaluating the situation associating your feelings for him.
Him he just asked you a simple question. He wants sex .
LB trust me I won’t, warm feelings are one thing, but I’d either be racked with guilt after it…or go back for seconds…knowing myself it would probably be both and in that exact order.