Saving for the wedding

somegroovychick · March 16, 2009, 9:19pm

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^ :(

phooljari786 · March 16, 2009, 9:42pm

I very much agree with you! I must admit I wanted a lavish affair but my husband and I talked and he said we should keep it simple so my family doesn't have to spend so much (my fam couldn't afford all I wanted but it was still a nice wed M'A) and he also said people who spend so much do so only to show off and Islamically its wrong. He was so right. The best part about my wedding was getting the right husband afetr it all ended. I couldn't care less now about what I had wanted and didn't get. And by the by you don't sound stuck up but rather sensible! ;)

Bint_e_Naeem · March 16, 2009, 9:44pm

SGC for some odd reason the smiley bought tears to my eyes but still made me feel better. I just know she is in a better place than here.

naqsa · March 16, 2009, 9:58pm

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^ So sorry to hear that hun. I hope Allah grants her a place in heaven and povides strength for the family.

Bint_e_Naeem · March 16, 2009, 10:08pm

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Ameen. Your words mean a lot to me. Jazak Allah Khair Naqsa

inta_habibi · March 16, 2009, 11:36pm

aww sorry to hear abt that! at least you have the best memories of her possible!!

somegroovychick · March 17, 2009, 12:11am

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bint HUG

xlusively_me · March 17, 2009, 12:53am

my sister paid for her own jahez shopping. my parents were going to do some cheap shopping but she had a job and paid her way through to afford all the designer stuff she wanted.

Afro-Sheen · March 17, 2009, 7:50pm

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When I got married I helped out with the cost of the wedding. I didn't pay for anything specific, but just doled out a lump sum that my mom finally agreed to, and that helped the overall cost of the wedding. I also paid for some individual stuff that I got for myself, including makeup, clothes, shoes, some misc stuff. I am only daughter so parents wanted to do it on their own, but I had been saving since my 1st job in uni, so I had enough to help out with. I also saved for a really nice antique style gold bangle for my mom as a gift, she really loved it. I got married in pak so hall/food was cheaper than in US, but the tickets for flights etc do add up. I was completely against inviting 300+ people to the wedding as its a waste and i barely knew half the people there, but parents felt they HAD to invite these complete strangers who we hadnt seen in ages.....Grr.
I wanted strictly close family (whom I like) and few family friends and that's it. I remember so many people coming to congratulate me on stage that i NEVER met...and they are like I am so n so anti, or 3rd aunt removed or some crap......hehe

lempika_lover · March 17, 2009, 9:08pm

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im getting married soon and im paying for it all, ive always been quite independent hence why i wont allow my parents to pay. it also means i can make decisions with constant interference from them!! hehe

jalebi121 · May 16, 2009, 3:58am

a lot of people are of the view that a wedding should be at taco bell for $100. imo, a wedding is the only time where you can have all your close friends and family together. you're not going to be able to get your aging mamoo in pakistan to come over for your child's birthday party or eid but most likely you can get him to visit you for a wedding. even better, you can have most of your friends and family in one place at once. it really is a once-in-a-lifetime, memorable experience.

i'm known for being a simple ponytail and jeans sort of girl but for my wedding i plan to spend several thousand dollars. would love to have my cousins from pakistan join me here, and i would like to pay for their airfare. they've always hosted me so many times and dealt with my complaints about their dear country (i didn't realize then..oops). so far i've saved $200 for my blockbuster wedding :D

Sara516 · May 16, 2009, 2:32pm

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^ make sure u get the visa issues straightened :D