Same or Ballpark Age

[bennylava]

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@""philosophy""

no. to me, this is about the prevalent idea that the guy can be 40+, whereas the girl has to be 20-25.** Most of it has to do with the mothers.

what you are talkin about is a fairytale rishta process.

guy has to be financially independent, support the family (his wife n kids) and his own parents n stuff. a girl doesn’t have to.

[PyariCgudia]

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I certainly do.

[bennylava]

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you are an exception, wouldn't you agree? we are talking generally here.

[PyariCgudia]

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I think there are more of us type of women than you guys give us credit for.

BTW, your screen name always reminds me of beni hana, and i end up wanting sushi.

[Deeba1234]

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@Decent_6Chora

Heck I even say if guy want GORI larki, he has all right to look for girl with fair color (as ghatiya soch as it sound). Only right he does not have is to insult some girl just because she is not gori.

And also not get upset if he's rejected himself for not being what a girl finds attractive (rather than calling her too fussy, stuck-up etc)..

[Deeba1234]

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guy has to be financially independent, support the family (his wife n kids) and his own parents n stuff. a girl doesn't have to.

A girl is supposed to make sure her parents are also ok in old age..

[Paheli00]

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@bennylava

guy has to be financially independent, support the family (his wife n kids) and his own parents n stuff.** a girl doesn’t have to**.

Oh really?

So if a woman becomes a widow…who becomes fully responsible for her and any children that she has given birth to? Whose door should she knock on to obtain food/clothing/shelter for herself & any kids she may have.

As a woman with no brothers, I’m specially interested in knowing what happens to people who have no sons. Who looks after them when they get old and aren’t able to take care of them selves financially and/or physically? After all, according to you, girls don’t have to support her own parents n stuff.

[SaeedinPakistan]

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@Paheli00

Oh really?

So if a woman becomes a widow…who becomes fully responsible for her and any children that she has given birth to? Whose door should she knock on to obtain food/clothing/shelter for herself & any kids she may have.

As a woman with no brothers, I’m specially interested in knowing what happens to people who have no sons. Who looks after them when they get old and aren’t able to take care of them selves financially and/or physically? After all, according to you, girls don’t have to support her own parents n stuff.

They remarry. You look for guys in the order given below.

1. Guy with nada wives
2. Guy with one wife
3. Guy with two wives
4. Guy with three wives.
   The Islamic way doing things for all the Muslims out there.

[Paheli00]

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@SaeedinPakistan

They remarry. You look for guys in the order given below.

1. Guy with nada wives
2. Guy with one wife
3. Guy with two wives
4. Guy with three wives.
   The Islamic way doing things for all the Muslims out there.

Of course! As soon as the 1st husband is buried, she should immediately marry a 2nd one! :k: No time to get over the loss and whether or not she wants another husband shouldn’t even really matter. After all…women should always be incapable of supporting themselves. Duh! Silly me for not knowing this.

Would you like to enlighten me about the 2nd part of my Q? What should my parents do at their old age since my sisters and I should not be worrying about supporting them? Heck we won’t be in a position to support ourselves…let alone our parents.

[SaeedinPakistan]

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@Paheli00

Of course! As soon as the 1st husband is buried, she should immediately marry a 2nd one! :k: No time to get over the loss and whether or not she wants another husband shouldn’t even really matter. After all…women should always be incapable of supporting themselves. Duh! Silly me for not knowing this.

Would you like to enlighten me about the 2nd part of my Q? What should my parents do at their old age since my sisters and I should not be worrying about supporting them? Heck we won’t be in a position to support ourselves…let alone our parents.

The last post was me channeling Molana Minty. He’s one of many ignorant mullahs.
Minty answers again: Sorry I had to censor his answer, because it was too offensive(or I failed to make something up).

Disclaimer: I don’t claim to agree with any of Molana Minty’s opinions.

[dreamMerchant]

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Poor guy didn't phrase well what he wanted to say. I guess he meant he is looking for some girl who is in her early twenties. 29, by no means is an old age.

By the way, every one has preferences about age when it comes to selecting a partner. What's the big deal about it?

[bennylava]

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@Paheli00

Oh really?

So if a woman becomes a widow…who becomes fully responsible for her and any children that she has given birth to? Whose door should she knock on to obtain food/clothing/shelter for herself & any kids she may have.

As a woman with no brothers, I’m specially interested in knowing what happens to people who have no sons. Who looks after them when they get old and aren’t able to take care of them selves financially and/or physically? After all, according to you, girls don’t have to support her own parents n stuff.

i don’t know. thats what all the women here keep saying over and over again. that the girl’s husband should take care of his in-laws if they don’t have any sons. also the ‘‘responsibility’’ is always of the guy. women have the ‘choice’ to contribute (only if they feel like). not my words, its what the women on here say.

[Decent_6Chora]

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And also not get upset if he's rejected himself for not being what a girl finds attractive (rather than calling her too fussy, stuck-up etc)..

of course....

[bennylava]

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And also not get upset if he's rejected himself for not being what a girl finds attractive (rather than calling her too fussy, stuck-up etc)..

Like if he has a fobby accent or is from overseas?

[PyariCgudia]

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Haha who is Molana Minty ?

[Contrarian]

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i don't know. thats what all the women here keep saying over and over again. that the girl's husband should take care of his in-laws if they don't have any sons. also the ''responsibility'' is always of the guy. women have the 'choice' to contribute (only if they feel like). not my words, its what the women on here say.

For someone with only two digit posts under his belt, you surely know an awful lot about what the ladies over here say.;)

[kakaballi]

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Is it possible that guys make an excuse of the age and wriggle out of the process, hiding the real reasons?

[bennylava]

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For someone with only two digit posts under his belt, you surely know an awful lot about what the ladies over here say.;)

i have been browsing the forums eversince i joined.

[SaeedinPakistan]

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i don't know. thats what all the women here keep saying over and over again. that the girl's husband should take care of his in-laws if they don't have any sons. also the ''responsibility'' is always of the guy. women have the 'choice' to contribute (only if they feel like). not my words, its what the women on here say.

So the poor guy provides for his parents, his wife's parents, his kids. That's just too much responsibility for one person. And what if the guy has 4 wives, he's end up supporting 5 set of parents.

[bennylava]

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So the poor guy provides for his parents, his wife's parents, his kids. That's just too much responsibility for one person. And what if the guy has 4 wives, he's end up supporting 5 set of parents.

if he is a ''real man'' as they say, he should be able to do that. and not all in-laws need to be without sons.