Same name

[Laiha]

Re: Same name

@Iconoclast

Most families do not like to switch one sibling for the other for rishta. Most cases I know of where it happened, families have out right rejected if one family asked for rishta of younger or older one, instead of originally intended person. If thats what you like to know.

Personally, I think its inappropriate, however, it has happened in some cases.

This.

I have been in a situation where the other party tried switching over to my sibling when the original proposal being considered was for me. I was really turned off by that and my family refused the proposal altogether. When they saw that happening, they tried switching back, but I didn’t want to be someone’s second choice.

Now I do know of the rare families where it isn’t seen as a big deal (because it is completely arranged and for whatever reasons, good rishtas are limited). So who knows, it could very well work out for your friend too. I personally find it disrespectful. The only time where I think it is acceptable is if let’s say you really like a family and are interested in their eldest child but upon inquiry, it turns out that person is already unofficially engaged. Then if you switch to the next child in line, it should be okay because you are not the one rejecting someone over superficial reasons. And there haven’t been any direct talks between the girl and the guy in question.