Salaam need advice about moving back to pakistan

[heart_n_soul_1]

Re: Salaam need advice about moving back to pakistan

^agreed with Shakespears quote. Until u actually experience it and then knw for definite if its good or bad. Not for everybody but for urself.
A few ppl now have given real life exteriences and have told u good or bad, but till u go for urself ur only thinking or assuming.

[Nina85]

Re: Salaam need advice about moving back to pakistan

@Monk

Thing is I doubt allah will punish you for living in non-Muslim country,
your kid worry is very genuine, and being a guy I do understand where you coming from.

Dude here is the thing, you need to able to love your kids NO MATTER what!!
See you teach them islam real good, that is your job. You will be questioned about it!!

Now I My self have seen that practical reason of not fooling around before marriage. And I appreciate this rule very much.
**I will teach my children islam, plus a good argument why they should keep to them selves.
Now pak or US they could make mistakes. You should be able to deal with it, rather then having a heart attack.
And after knowing it all, if kid chose to adopt a sinful life style then, you have to know you go to your grave and kid need to answer
her/him self for what he/she chose.
Nothing more to that.
**But you better be able to love them still!!! How could you not

I learn this principle from a guppen, it gave me so much peace. I wont tell her name. No one expect her to say some thing deep.. ever
haha

Very true. Dont do the whole, “oh I dont want them to become too westernized”; they will be to some extent if you live in the West, it’s normal. That does not mean that they will not be “good Muslims”. And moving to Pakistan also does not garantee they will be “good muslims”. Your job is to raise them to be good/considerate people and to understand and respect their religion. This can happen anywhere, in any country. What your children choose to do with what you have taught them is their own decision. But if you feel like you would be happier in Pakistan, then go for it. Just remember the grass always seems greener on the other side.

[homesick]

Re: Salaam need advice about moving back to pakistan

Remember one thing. When no one will take you. Your mother will always embrace you.

[homesick]

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Amazing how quickly we become too good for the mother land that gave us birth.

[Monk]

Re: Salaam need advice about moving back to pakistan

homie you are back

Dude 7 year and every singe cell of your body get replaced.
7 years and every single bit of hardware you have is amreekan.

Dude amreeka is not only chicks walking in there undies.

Dude amreeka is air water every which eventually became you.

You need to read indigenous culture/teaching ASAP. That will be detoxification of your
brain.

[queen_24]

Re: Salaam need advice about moving back to pakistan

@homesick

Salaam. I am new to this forum and just wanted to ask people’s opinions/experiences about this strong desire I have had over the last couple of years to move to Pakistan. I came to the U.S at the age of 8-9 and had a hard time adjusting initially. I adjusted well and after 9/11 in college, I had a period of reanalyzing my identity. I got married in Pakistan and have made 3 trips there in the last few years. What I observed was that, given you have a descent income, people are more relaxed and live more in Pakistan. Here in the U.S there is this atmosphere of stress. No one is happy. Everyone is stressed and life seems very mechanical. There is just atmosphere of coldness-no apna pun- no identity-.You just work and pay the bills, and work and pay the bills and the cycle continues. I feel more and more like a stranger and fear spending the rest of my life in this aimless cycle. Mind you all of my family is here, including uncles/aunts and their kids. However, I fear my kids losing their identities and not wanting to have anything to do with Pakistan. I want them to experience a Muslim majority country. I know Pakistan is corrupt, but still muslim majority and you get to be a 1st class citizen. What I wanted to ask was, does anyone know families who have moved back permanently, and if so, how was their experience? Do you recommend it? I can’t see myself getting old here living this meaningless existence. That is my biggest fear Do others feel this way? I think about it all the time. I have a descent job, so that’s not the issue. People here are fake, and there are no true friendships. Am I wrong in feeling this way? Should we live here permanently? Please share you thoughts/advice/experiences

All you need is just a visit for couple of months to Pakistan. Believe me, you will desire to go back to US!
Aazmaaish shart hay

[Fugue]

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Hi Homesick! Just came across this post through a google search. We’re planning to move too. Since your post is around three years old, i was wondering you might be in a good position to tell how your experience went. I can relate to all the points you put here in the thread and comments. Too homesick! If you could share the good and bad it would be helpful! Thanks