Re: Salaam need advice about moving back to pakistan
This is what I disagree with. In fact, I think you have it completely backwards. From what I can tell, people in Pakistan (and my whole family is in Karachi, so that is what I’m basing things on) seem to age much, much faster. No one looks fresh or relaxed…perpetual pareshan haal. No matter how well off they are (and my family runs the gammut from not very wealthy to extremely well off) everyone looks so tired and defeated all the time. And I don’t blame them. Wahaan ke haalaat aisi hi hain…gas ka masla, paani ka masla, bijli ka masla, traffic ka masla, hungamay ka masla, strikes ka masla…I’m not dogging on Pakistan at all…it’s a wonderful country with lovely people and a lot to offer if the corruption and circumstances were different.
From your posts, I feel like you have this utopia created in your mind about returning to the mother land. Pakistan is no less “wicked” and corrupt then Western nations. It is possible to raise good, Islamic minded pious children in America. There are plenty of communities in America that are more Pakistani than Pakistan itself. As far as your concerns of fake friendships and endless cycle of just paying bills…that sounds like a personal problem and not a reflection on living outside of Pakistan. Your life is what you make of it, regardless of your geographic location. You can live a good, comfortable life without getting caugh in the rat race or chasing the all mighty dollar.
Good luck with your relocation. Make the decision that you feel is best for your family, but please don’t make America out to be such a bad, demoralized place. Many immigrants have made a wonderful life here and are content.