Saddle up your high horses, Here comes Trouble

[Mad_Hatter]

Re: Saddle up your high horses, Here comes Trouble

@Gaia

My SO was born/ raised/ and lived there for 23 years. He did see all the dating in colleges, the inappropriate clothing on girls, the hugging/kissing between opposite gender, and of course the premarital sex. Actually let me be specific (EVERYONE of his friends was involved in either sleeping around with their girlfriends or they would be getting hookers). Does that make these things norms? Or even common IN ALL OF PAKISTAN?

I second that. Just because every other person seems to be sleeping around/drinking/etc etc - doesn’t mean we all are.
I’ve often come across people who come from Pakistan (usually the newly-arrived ones obv) who are surprised when they meet me as they think we’ve all lost our morals and are opening making out with black guys in the streets etc etc. Dramatic I know, but I do think people do also have pre-conceived notions about what they think we are up to. I consider myself a practising muslim, i’m very close to my family and I think I have quite islamic values.

BUT it also doesn’t mean I live in dream land and assume everything is happy-happy joy-joy - I know many Pakistani girls and boys who sleep around and disregard their islamic values - but it doesn’t mean that I will automatically follow.

I also don’t mean to say that it’s not happening more commonly though, cos it’s definitely a different issue that it was say 50, 20 or even 10 years ago.

Perhaps it also could be that people’s attitudes have adapted, and maybe it’s not the case that it’s happening more commonly but that people are talking about it a bit more openly that they used to in previous years?