Sada Suhaagan Raho!

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Re: Sada Suhaagan Raho!

@Jolie

You basically have a problem with people wishing married woman that may you have lifelong companionship of your husband because in your head it means that they’re promoting fears of widowhood? Really? Cynical and paranoid much? What do you want to people to say to a newly wedded bride to balance things out, perhaps something like “may you two remain together forever, but if one of you die by any chance, don’t think it’s the end of the world?”. You are so concerned and fixated over that words that aren’t even said and meaning that’s not even intended, than the kind, positive and warm message these blessings clearly carry on face value.

Last time I checked, Pakistani culture and psyche is also heavily influenced by religion. Widows and orphans hold a special place in our religion, there are plenty of instances in Quran and hadith where their status is elevated andf fair and kind treatment is prescribed. In a country like Pakistan, are these people victim of staggering social and economic inequalities or they’re treated like dirt/criminal/outcast because of folkore and history and what not.

I don’t have problem with this saying. I have a problem with the possible origin of this saying and its continuous reflection on our society.

As far as religion is concerned, religion is all good till it doesn’t affect our vested interests. Jahez is considered right of ladies, but they are not given right in inheritance. there we follow customs ‘bahi se hissa lene wali ko acha nahin samjha jata’ , ‘sada chiRya da chanba way, babal assan ud jana te pher wapis nai aana, wirasat lene bhi nai’ type stuff.