Sada Suhaagan Raho!

[Jolie]

Re: Sada Suhaagan Raho!

@muqawwee123

I don’t have command over sayings of all languages spoken in Pakistan, but ‘sada suhaagan raho’ got equivalent sentences in Sindhi. Considering widow is inauspicious is common in almost all desi communities. In our cultures, majority people still raise eye brows, when a widow opt to start married life again. the sufferings of widows are not part of our history, they still exist and our shared history and folklore do play a role in such sufferings.

You basically have a problem with people wishing married woman that may you have lifelong companionship of your husband because in your head it means they’re promoting fears of widowhood? Really? Cynical and paranoid much? What do you want to people to say to a newly wedded bride to balance things out, perhaps something like “may you two remain together forever, but if one of you die by any chance, don’t think it’s the end of the world?”. You are so concerned and fixated over the words that aren’t even said and meaning that’s not even intended, instead of acknowledging the kind, positive and warm message these blessings clearly carry on the face value.

Last time I checked, Pakistani culture and psyche is also heavily influenced by religion. Widows and orphans hold a special place in our religion, there are plenty of instances in Quran and hadith where their status is elevated andf fair and kind treatment is prescribed. In a country like Pakistan, are these people victim of staggering social and economic inequalities or they’re treated like dirt/criminal/outcast because of folkore and history and what not.