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March 21, 2012, 4:14pm
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Re: Sad, angry and confuse
This may sound harsh, but I don’t blame him for distancing himself from you. Your behavior is a bit extreme and you’re not being reasonable/mature yourself. When you live in a western country, you need to make adjustments. Just because a restaurant serves alcohol and pork doesn’t mean that you have to order those dishes and you can always ask the server about the ingredients in the dishes…this is where your iman comes in. Your husband’s parents eat pork in front of him, but if he avoids it…that’s a reflection of his faith. Though you haven’t mentioned it, I hope you don’t expect him to stay away from his parents/siblings. It could even be that his brother was teasing him about the bacon. Before you said that he told you that he doesn’t eat pork and now you have doubts that he’s lying to you…you need to try backing off and having some trust in him. Again, if nagging and only focusing on his negative points is not helping matters…then try giving some space and acknowledging/appreciating the good things he does. If you believe that you are a woman of faith…then you should understand that faith shouldn’t be forced…Islam was not embraced though harshness, it was compassion that helped people accept it. Try talking to him gently (in a non-defensive way) about your concerns and give him some space and pick and choose your battles…see if that works. If things are getting worse…take a break from him and figure out what you want out of your marriage, if you even want one. But don’t make rash decisions based only on your emotions…you have a child to think about as well.
Thank you for your input.
I have few muslim friend that dont mind at all eating at restaurant that serves pork and wine. I told them why should we go there? they are so many HALAL restaurant that we can go. In Islam if you feel uncertain abt the foods halal or haram you better avoid it.
My husband ate non halal foods at work during his lunch. Maybe some of you dont know that chinese restaurant always used lard in their cooking. To ask them not to put lard in their foods or not to use msg is no point because they cooked the food early in the morning.