Sad, angry and confuse

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Re: Sad, angry and confuse

@soconfused

I’m muslim and I find your behavior pretty stifling. I understand your beliefs, but you’re coming across as suffocating --and making Islam come across the same way, unfortunately to your husband. Like someone mentioned, if your husband likes Chinese food/moon cakes then why don’t you find halal alternatives/recipes you can make him.

Dear Mr/Ms Soconfused. I cooked chinese foods at home every day (only for dinner). Just tell me what kind of chinese food I can cook it for you. i learn how to cook their dishes from his father and from him (he used to work at chinese restaurant when he is in Univ). It’s same like everyone else, if they eat Pakistani foods at home everyday they want to eat Pakistani foods at restaurant once a while right? They said the taste is different , the environment is different. And abt the moon cake - i can bake it but prob is you can never have the same taste like the one that came from malaysia. Why? because they add their own secret ingredients (lard of course!)

The first question is if he believes in the articles of faith. Unless you get a real answer for him, it’s pointless to make a decision. If he says he doesn’t, well then as a Muslim, you know what you’re supposed to do. If he does, then he IS a muslim. Yes, slightly uninformed but a muslim, nontheless.

He text me and saying he did not belives in Allah. He know abt Muhammad is a person that live long long time ago. He said religion like islam is very all abt fear and intimidation.

Also, I know you guys were “in love” but considering that he’s completely fallen off the wagon in terms of practice, how much did he know / practice before?

I know he learn a lot abt Islam from me because when he had discussion with all of his brothers he will enlighten them as why and why (i.e i can eat pork, wine etc). We also have friend from Lebanon. This guy is Christians but know so much abt Islam, middle east crisis and all. They like to discuss abt what happen in Palestine, the jews and middle east - from here I notice my husband negative view of islam. He try to fasting in month of Ramadhan - first an hours then half days - but at the end he dont like it. He said why should he suffering?

Unfortunately, this is the risk that you run with marrying a convert. I know some AMAZING converts, mA mA but it’s a risk nonetheless. Best of luck to you.

Yes I know abt the risk - I have few friends that husband is converted. Some turned into good muslim husband and some not. So for those who want to marry a Christians or a Hindu, non believer, jews etc .. pls think abt it 1000 times.