Rukhsati while Quran being held over the head

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Re: Rukhsati while Quran being held over the head

@SID_NY

Yes it’s everywhere but I think it’s more of a culture thing by saying hey you are departing under the holy book which means ALLAH will save you. It doesn’t mean it’s necessary so if someone doesn’t want to do it, nobody is going to kill them.

If I’m not wrong bidaat is something which doesn’t hv a religious reference but still acted like its necessary. But this thing is more of a custom

^ This.

It’s like a doodh pilai ki rasm or rasta rokna rasm but more meaningful? The families who carry out this tradition know that there is no Islamic significance behind it. It’s more like a feel-good thing for the parents/siblings who are saying their alvida. Kind of like giving their blessing to her. The Quran that is held over the bride’s head is gifted to her by her family and she takes it with her to her new home.

It’s never bothered me. In fact, out of all the non-Islamic traditions we do, I actually like this one and would like to have it at my wedding too.

The people who are saying it’s disrespectful because there is music playing (majority of the times, the music usually is added in the wedding video…there is no actual music playing at most weddings except the ones that have a dj and have paid him/her to stay till the very end of the night)…there are only so many rukhsati songs that are played over and over. The lyrics or music aren’t offensive/provocative in any way. They just showcase the feelings of the bride and her family at that very moment. Again, I don’t see how that’s disrespectful. It’s not like the song is being played over tilawat or something.