Is that how you got rukhsatified, ladies - with someone holding a Quran over your head? Many people consider it a biddat. What is your take on that?
I know this thread could be in Religion, but like to hear from married ladies, and somehow they dont come to Religion forum 
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Yes, that’s how my ruhksati was and honestly, that’s what I’ve always seen done… I never questioned the thought process behind this rivaaj or whether it is biddat or not…I’m very keen to see others responses now 
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at my sisters wedding, I was the one holding the Quran and to tell you the truth not very comfortable and my hand and shoulder got really tired because she was moving too slow and crying. I just wanted to push her
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at my sisters wedding, I was the one holding the Quran and to tell you the truth not very comfortable and my hand and shoulder got really tired because she was moving too slow and crying. I just wanted to push her
Lol.
Hey I just got an idea. Invent an 'above-the-head-Quran-holder'.
Patent Pending :ASA:
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And here goes the concept of “burkut” out of the window.
If it has any burkut you should have been thinking that this beautiful scene should never end.
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It's bidah. What's holding a Quran over her head going to do? It's not going to protect her or bless their marriage in any way. I find it so disrespectful when there's a rukhsati song playing on full volume and someone's holding a Quran over the bride's head. There's no logic behind it
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Yes. This is how it's done in our families. I'm not really bothered by it either way.
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Yes it's everywhere but I think it's more of a culture thing by saying hey you are departing under the holy book which means ALLAH will save you. It doesn't mean it's necessary so if someone doesn't want to do it, nobody is going to kill them.
If I'm not wrong bidaat is something which doesn't hv a religious reference but still acted like its necessary. But this thing is more of a custom
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Nope. Doesn't happen in my family. I saw it for the first time in Pakistan when my brother got married, my SIL was rukhsatfied with a Quran held over her head. I don't really understand the practice, but I would like to know why it's done and why some people say it's biddah?
In our family, the bride is usually gifted a Quran at the time of the rukhsati by her father. I have "inherited" my grandmother's very first Quran which she was gifted by my grandfather just after she converted to Islam. It's one of my dearest belongings :)
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^ Some people refer to it as biddah because its an innovation.
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The tradition has died out in my family. Haven't seen it happen in ages. It has zero religious value so no body cared enough to maintain the tradition. The Quran in your heart is going to protect you and a physical version that's placed on the highest shelf which no one can reach isn't.
But then the tradition is getting replaced with Bollywood exit and entry songs :(
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But then the tradition is getting replaced with Bollywood exit and entry songs :(
True true. Although I'm quite certain the family weddings don't have any music either. The last non family wedding had the bride entering at abhi toh party shuruh hui hai at both entrance and exit. Poor girl.
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But then the tradition is getting replaced with Bollywood exit and entry songs :(
Having a Quran over head and/or songs do not achieve anything. I know in some families some older men or women of family provide some advise about leading a happy married life, family dynamics and relationships, to the bride and groom. This seems to be very practical and wise alternative. If someone can recite some relevant Quranic verses and their translation that would be the best.
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Yes this is bidaat and also its a disrespectful thing
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It was done on my rukhsati as well.
I never really questioned it or thought about it.
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Pisiform, you succeed in making me chuckle, roll my eyes, and wanting to smack my forehead and you at the same time. It’s a special kinda blunt humor that can produce varying reactions all at once. 
Yes, that’s how we did my sister’s rukhsati last year. I have never given it much thought. And if it is wrong to do so, I don’t think my parents will budge on it.
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: If it has any burkut you should have been thinking that this beautiful scene should never end.
There comes a point when you want that rukhsati walk to end.
My sister had a loooong rukhsati walk from the hall to the hotel exit. I think we had to walk outdoors and then go indoors and then turn a corner. Yeah long walk. And when you're wearing heels....that are making your feet hurt....you want to that walk to be short one. As soon as the limo drove away and I stepped indoors ...I sat me down on a lobby sofa and took off my shoes. And I had no qualms about walking around barefoot in my sharara at that point...chahay jo marzi dekhay, lol.
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As far as I know it is biddat, we have never done it in our family, don't know what it would achieve if it was done. Have seen it done a lot in pakistan though. Oh and what with throwing the chawal/ rice over your head?
Yes a Quran is always given to the girl getting married. Now a days a lot of people have a durse before the wedding or Quran khani.
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its a tradition in my family as well, but some, after realizing that its a biddah have started to drop this rasam now.
It has no religious logic.