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Dang, I'm Pakistani too, and have never ever heard of this eww rasm..
It happens. I am from a village close to lahore to Gujrat and i have seen happening all the time and its normal thing people do at their weddings.
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Thats why i think marriage should be a private affair...........
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Well once I went to this wedding and I saw women stuffing samosas and savoury items in to their handbags.
Haha i have seen tgis too:/ paki auntiiswho bring shoppers in their handbag...they put broast in one...biryani in thw other and everythin else with them.... The weirdest thing was that later thwy were sayin out loud " do din ka khana parha hey shadi ka"
The weirdest thing i experienced is that people talk rubbish about everythin.... At my couains marriage the girls danced against the boys... So the auntiis started talkin like " ia ko sharm nai ati...is ka shohar bhi kuch nai kehta" wthell -.- weirdoos...dont look at thwir own daughters who go clubbin al night
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I don't like going to weddings
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well I just read a comment here about the sikh bf and his mom gate crashing and making a scene and the last one that the groom decided to drive from khi to RWP , I' will say what a silly groom , he was getting married could 't he get there a cupple of days a head . or just buy a air ticket ,and the first story of the b/f entering with his Mon is really embarrassing and , you know then girls go for illegitimate( like as having an affair with bad guys) thing like such , with super boldness , than at times they even get it .
I' have a very similar story that of this not as bad , but you know my cousin had a b/f , one out of the many really struck in her throat , actually cousin's bro literally killed the ex b/f and he was hospitilised for 15 days, and than the family logged an FIR against the brother and his family , when she was getting married , some person(I' don not know who could that be , well that is a mistry as of to this day). e.mail the pics of the affair to each and every person around the family plus the girls husband to be and the inlaws , she now has a few issues with her in laws ,I' guess the leaked pics may also be one of the reasons, waisa , I' am petty sur that some thing of this kind will definately happen , at my sis's wedding
well after reading this post could't control my self from typing . guys give us some tips to handle the issue. aahhh ... my LOrd , Only You know what disgrace will she now bring upon us .
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Rude moment at my wedding......
My hubby and his family and I and my family were only introduced to each other a week before. **All went well; I liked him, he had fallen for me and we were married **the next week! (hence the comments)
"Khuda keh liya, kabbi dulhan ko nahi tekha off white jora meh, sharam honi jai hai, laal jora nahi pehna ha" (For Gods sake, never seen a bride wearing an off white jora, shame on her, she's not wearinga rd outfit)
When I got married (oh over 25 years ago), I was one of the very first brides in our area to ever wear off white for her wedding. It was a spectacular chiffon lengha with very delicate work all over the lengha and the dupatta. The kaam on the lengha is still as pristine as the day of my wedding. My daughter tried it on a few weeks ago, saying she will be wearing it when her time comes. I have never ever liked red, and never wanted to wear the typical red outfit. None of my sisters, bhabhis or cousins have worn red for their wedding days.
pics of the lehnega please sounds so divine. and love how u liked him & he "fell" for u. That is so sweet!
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Went to Pakistan for my Mamus wedding in April. My cousin (Also from UK) went too the first time after his divorce. His ex father in law figured out my cousin was also in Pakistan and arranged to cause drama. Day of the walima, my parents, another mamu and phupo (cousins mum) decided to go to the venue and greet guests while the rest of us were yet to finish getting ready, including the bride. When they got to the venue, my cousins ex father in law was there waiting with some cops. Apparently they had an arrest warrant for my cousin. Dad calmed the situation down, eventually, but we were late to the venue with the bride by 2 hours as we had been advised to stay home until the cops had left. At the same walima, a fight broke out between my phupo and another family member. The family member was related to my cousins ex wife. It was awful. I was trying to break it up before the males intervened to diffuse the situation. My mum, bless her, didn't have a clue as to what was going on, was sitting on the stage getting pictures taken!
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there was very well infact a moment there there was some aunty the chahchi of the bride , they moms the devraani and gethni were not friends with one another , so they hated each other. her chahci daughter , wanted to be in every pic and the family of the bride did not wanted that to happen , so she went to her mom and she camplained and , thatn the chahchi came on the floor and started yell at the girl " mein tei taangein taur k haik doon gi" and every person watched the scene, but you know lately every person was saying bad thing about the person who misbehaved , so if you plan on to doing such thing than , you'll loose your respect as well. becouse showws of such kind are not really given positive acclaim.
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i got married in pak i had a joint mehndi so we decided to have a buffet these two women ran for the foood filled their plates to the max like they are never seen food in there life and didnt even eat it alll wasted all tht food and left sooo hate tht jahil log 
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^ haha that is so awkward and weird
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This happened to us at my sister's wedding years ago. The caterers did not deliver food for a wedding of 300 people. They delivered enough for 200 (it was on their bill) and forgot - I repeat - FORGOT the appetizers.
It was a disaster...luckily there was another wedding happening in the same banquet hall and the bride's family heard about the commotion and sent us a portion of their food out of the goodness of their hearts.
You never know what's going on behind the scenes.
Wow...that was really big-hearted of the other family to do that. So sweet of them.
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I went to a wedding where two cousins were getting married together.
The Groom's ex-wife who was also the Groom's cousin came on stage. Some people were trying to stop her but the Groom told them to let her on the stage. His ex-wife was looking incredibly beautiful and graceful but her face was looking so hurt and broken. I didn't know what was going on at that time and we couldn't hear anything that was being said from the tables. The Groom's ex wife started crying, was shaking and she said something to the Groom and he kissed her on the head and hugged her. He was in tears as well and he was stopping his Mum from getting to his ex-wife. Then his ex-wife kissed and hugged the Bride and they just held each other for ages...and then the Groom's ex wife left the wedding. After that the Bride was crying on the stage but thankfully the new couple were strong, are happily married until this day and have an adorable little baby, MashaAllah.
I wish I knew the full **true **details of what happened but I don't know what's true etc as there are so many gossips said about them...I just came to know that neither of them wanted to divorce each other but due to family interference the couple divorced and later regretted it. They are both incredibly sweet natured individuals and I went to their wedding years back when I was in secondary school...so it was actually really sad and aching to hear what happened to them.
I hope the ex wife finds her happiness again too like her ex-Husband has.
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My mum, bless her, didn't have a clue as to what was going on, was sitting on the stage getting pictures taken!
Ok thats pretty hilarious. Not the drama, but sitting and having pix taken. :D
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It just makes me immensely mad when I read stories like this. Why can’t people stay out of other people’s lives?
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I have couple of stories
1) My brother went to attend a wedding in village (Rawalakot, AJK) where our cousin (son of our Phuppo) was arranging marriage of his niece (her father had died). It was mehndi function and there were few guests from other cities (like my brother). One family from Lahore was there who were related to that cousin but he did not like them at all.
When it was time for the dinner, he came to the gathering of people and said that people who have come from outside will eat separately (in special arrangement) and not with the crowd (its typical in our village). So my brother along with few others and those guys from Lahore went to another house nearby. They were being served with the food when suddenly the same guy (our cousin) came and shouted at the guests from Lahore 'why are you here, you will not eat here, go and wait along with others. My brother says everyone there wanted to slap that guy there and then. The poor guys left the room and the wedding and went back next morning. It was very stupid of him to act like that and humiliate them. Later we found held some grudge against them and found that moment perfect to strike, but still he acted like moron.
2) The second occasion was bit funny. My first cousin was getting married in village (same place) in 2007 and I was there. There were two sisters, one was getting married to my cousin and other sister to another guy from the village. So there were wedding functions in 3 houses.
For Mehndi we assumed that as all 3 houses will be having mehndi function on the same date and time, so the relatives, the bradri and villagers will be divided between the 3 houses (the families of the grooms and brides invited everyone, as it was customary).
We thought we'll have x number of guests and made arrangements and food accordingly. But as the evening approached, people started coming in to our place and numbers kept increasing steadily, it seemed everyone was at our place. The catering guys (not pros) panicked and informed that food will not be sufficient for all the people... lol... So they had to make emergency arrangements and cook more food in a hurry.
The available food was served to women folk and the men had to wait... eventually half cooked food was given to the remaining people. We ate after the guests went back and found what we were serving to them.
Next day was Barat and when we reached the brides' house we found that not many people showed up at their place and same case was with the other groom. They had food leftover from previous night as very few people went to those two houses. We didn't knew people were so eager to come to our place.
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**I read **some posts regarding Mirpuri weddings...
Well in good old days this was very much the case in our Rawalakot too. I did attend many marriages in my childhood and was always intrigued by a guy sitting with a register, taking cash (salami or what we call 'Phanji') writing down amount and name so that when its their time to give money they'll know how much to give. A 100 would get you 100 even if wedding in your house takes place after 10 years. :)
Never had chance to see this with gifts and unwrapping them on the spot. Men usually gave money, while women would give some gift wrapped to the women of the house. They will make note of who gave what, but never displayed it openly. Now the times have changed and people write their names on envelops, put cash in it and hand them over to the couple, no more registering your name. However some old folks still look out for someone who is holding such register, but this tradition is in its final stage at least in my area.
Another thing someone said on these pages was about the cooperation of people during such events. Its true that when there was wedding in a house the whole village acted like its wedding of their son or daughter. All people really worked hard especially if the bride or the groom was coming from another village or city, everyone would be very keen to leave good impression. During such times old rivalries did come up and *mehfils *would be held to invite someone, or to seek his forgiveness etc. But now if someone showed attitude he'll be left alone and not invited.
There was no issue with the catering, men would cook really nice food for free... just bring them necessary items and pots and they will do it without any money. Neighbors would get together and decorate and paint the house, if needed. As a hilly area, water was always an issue and men and women will go to fetch water from a spring or make arrangement for a water motor.
Someone would lend their water tanks for water storage. Some men would cut down tree or wood to make fire for cooking etc. It will be a festive environment that will never be experienced in modern day marriages. Such traditions are dying.
As a kid it was all fun for me, but now people have moved to shadi halls, banquet halls where all the arrangement is done professionally and you just pay and get the service. As the times change, so do people, their habits, and their traditions.
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^ I went to a Mirpuri wedding recently where the guests still had to register their name and how much cash they were giving! Its incredibly insulting to do.
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Wow! Such craziest things i’ve ever read in happening in weddings .. In all cases mentioned above, it’s those poor brides who would have suffered the most..
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Another thing someone said on these pages was about the cooperation of people during such events. Its true that when there was wedding in a house the whole village acted like its wedding of their son or daughter. All people really worked hard especially if the bride or the groom was coming from another village or city, everyone would be very keen to leave good impression. During such times old rivalries did come up and *mehfils *would be held to invite someone, or to seek his forgiveness etc. But now if someone showed attitude he'll be left alone and not invited.
There was no issue with the catering, men would cook really nice food for free... just bring them necessary items and pots and they will do it without any money. Neighbors would get together and decorate and paint the house, if needed. As a hilly area, water was always an issue and men and women will go to fetch water from a spring or make arrangement for a water motor.
Someone would lend their water tanks for water storage. Some men would cut down tree or wood to make fire for cooking etc. It will be a festive environment that will never be experienced in modern day marriages. Such traditions are dying.
As a kid it was all fun for me, but now people have moved to shadi halls, banquet halls where all the arrangement is done professionally and you just pay and get the service. As the times change, so do people, their habits, and their traditions.
that actually sounds really lovely! my in-laws had a similiar kind of thing when they got married. they're from eastern europe and got married in MIL's village. everyone helped them out and all the ladies came over to dress her the morning of the wedding. after the ceremony, they all walked down to the reception area. there's the most fantastic picture of the wedding procession as it made its way down the street.
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I think the most insensitive is when people pour food and don't finish it, and the food is already running low.
Making a mess.
Parents not controlling their kids running on stage or in front of the video camera.
Kids tearing down the decorations.
Guests criticizing the bride, her outfit, her makeup, her jewlery.
This is seriously the worse thing women do. I've never heard men say such things but women can be real witches with a capital B.
I went to a friend's wedding and she looked really elegant and beautiful, MashaAllah, however she chose to keep her wedding and appearance a little on the simple side as her Mother had passed away only a few months before. Overall, she really struggled getting through her wedding day and we were constantly wiping her eyes as all she kept thinking about was her Mum.
But at her wedding I over heard some bold and rude comments made about her make-up and clothes...and I was appalled how such women could say such things! I mean go home and say whatever you wish but why at a wedding where others can over-hear you?! Why can't people simply be happy for the bride however she looks and refrain from making harsh comments?