Rudest moment at your wedding/or weddings you've attended

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we forgot to say "I Do". :(

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I went to my close cousin's wedding in 2006, well, on her mehndi we drove out all the guys so the girls can dance.As we starte dancing, my other cousin complained about hearing something on the roof....as it went while we were was dancing all the guys (of the grooms side) eventually came back somehow and were taking pics of us dancing!!!! then all hell broke loose because everybody stated fighting about it.....lol....

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we had a wedding crasher!

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that's actually really funny! lol!

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we don't have any bad memeories, we had a very small private ceremony. The only thing I didn't like was that me and my husband didn't want 'joti chuppai' he wanted to give my friends and cousin sis wagerah wasey he pasey. He thought making them touch his jotis and all the china-jhapti looks bad, for money is not funny, and I totally agreed. Anyways my cousin's fiance, knowing that we don't wan this rasam, went ahead and made a hula-gula, that left an awkward and we thought it was distasteful. I hate juti-chupai (this is not to offend anyone)

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Elaborate! insert evil grin

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^ Some dude hubby had met ONCE a few weeks before the wedding, and most definitely did NOT invite, crashed his way into hubby's bachelor party, and then befriended a couple (well, the guy since he was there and not the girl obvs) we know and hitched a ride with them to the wedding! This is, of course, because he had no invite and therefore no idea where/when it was.

Needless to say there was no place card for him so my bm's had to make one on the spot and seated him at one of the tables. It was SUPER weird! We never heard from/saw him again! But when we were opening gifts, there was an envelope from him too, so maybe he thought him and hubby were friends or something after one business meeting and decided to invite himself and bring a gift? lol! We never did get to the bottom of that story.

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^ LOL

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LOL. That IS super-weird but I found it cute that he bought a gift. Awkward aadmi kain ka. +_+

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what i find really rude at those weddings where you have to get your food yourself from the tables on the side - is the way the women push and shove each other desperately trying to be the first to get to the food! it is such a mad scene!! i mean the food won't run anywhere or run out! why can't those women be patient and form a line or something?!

i get so fed up of this and literally wait until i am the last person and then i go to get food for my nani, dadi and then myself. i mean obviously elderly people couldn't even think to get into those lines!! they wouldn't be given a chance and would get knocked over!

the rudest and most offensive thing possible at mirpuri wedding's i have been to, is when you give your gift to the bride and groom. you get directed to a table at the side of the hall instead, where two ganster-type uncles in the gold necklaces are waiting with endless, counted money stacks on their tables and a clip board with names of the guests and who has given what.

this is so embrassing i reckon and rude!

my dad handed a wedding card enclosed with money in a sealed envelope. they took the envelope, opened it up, threw the envelope away, asked my dad's family name etc, wrote it down complete with the amount of money he gave. then they added the wedding card to the wedding card stack and the notes of money my dad gave to the money stack. with the money, my mum also gifted the couple a gorgeous john lewis glass and jug set. they ripped open the present and again wrote those details down, putting the gift on the side with the other gifts.

this one guy gave a twenty note and those thug-uncles gave him the strangest look implying it was less. so rude.

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mirpuri weddings have many scenes you will always remember! these people...*well the ones i know...*have too much money, show it off proudly at weddings on jewellery, annoucing on stage that two houses have been given to the bride and groom and come in expensive jeeps and cars but don't put a penny into arranging a decent wedding! if you're going to invite 600 women alone - at least organise that many seating arrangments! lol!

there was this one mirpuri wedding i went to which was a complete joke! i had to go b/c the family was sooo nice. what happened below actually happened on 3 days in a row e.g. mendhi, shaadi and walima.

men and women's hall was separate. the way the food was served was beyond crazy!! in the women's section they had over 600 guests. the hall was over-crowded, there weren't enough chairs and the chairs were all seated against eachother right up to the walls. some women were sitting on the stage stairs and some on the wooden floors. i was standing with many other girls or sometimes my nani would pull me down to sit on her lap! i begged to go home but mum said we had to stay b/c the family was so nice!

for lunch the tables were brought out. they had four rows of tables down the hall. maybe 30 people could be seated at each row of table. we all basically had to take turns eating. you had to pick up your chair you were seating on...rush to grab your place at the table and quickly eat! first batch was given food, with the 2nd batch standing with their own chairs, impatiently waiting behind them to hurry up! when the 1st batch finished, they took their chairs and 2nd batch would run forward with their chairs grabbing a place at the table. this continued.

b/c i was with my gran and she was elderly, there was no way i would bother to run. so we waited until the end...and there was still plenty of food. it was so badly arranged it was a joke and well embrassing.

i have another mirpuri wedding story to tell you. but i have to rush off now! this one beats all the weddings i have ever been too! lol! will tell you guys when i come back!

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^ I've been to a mirpur wedding and I think the general idea is that you have to wait behind the person eating to be next to eat. It's really awful and uncomfortable. I'm such a slow eater and you have to literally wolf your food down because someone is stood behind you, watching!

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but its so annoying and embrassing! and they could have arranged more seats! the hall was massive as well!!

but the food is sooooooooo tasty! lol!

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Oh dear, lol. What did you do then?

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I know but the nice thing is with their weddings is that EVERYONE pitches in to help out with setting tables/serving food

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YES!!

that is soooo true! i have never ever seen any waiters or hired help! amazing isn't it? in the women's sect all the girls/ young women were serving the food and arranging the next tables! i was well-impressed with how well they all work together as a close fam'. that must be appreciated about them of course!!

hey maybe we've been to the same mirpuri weddings?! lol! ;)

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I recently got back from my first trip to pakistan attending my cousin rabia's wedding. she's a guppan so i'm sure she will add to this when she comes home in a week but I was highly annoyed at the groom's side for showing up so late, being so rude and hogging up the stage. In Lahore places close at 10pm they give us maybe 15 more mins until they turn off the lights. Our side of the family was highly frustrated bc my cousin is waiting around to make an entrance and can't so our family can't take any pics bc they didn't show up till 9:15. The dinner had to quickly get served once the groom's family made their way in and they were so rude.

Even when the bride's brother asked an aunt of the groom to get off stage bc it was finally our side's turn she said she doesn't have to get off if she doesn't want to. I was like oh no she didn't lol. Her husband was wonderful and stood up to his family and yelled at them to get off the stage, it's our turn. It was at that moment I had a new respect for him and on the valima he was funny he was like as soon as this aunt gets up take her seat and then i'll get the rest to leave the stage...so i did what he said. That is not common in paki weddings and meant a lot to my family.

however at the wedding ppl were poking fun at her inlaws, pointing and talking badly about people and I was thinking are yall that much better looking, or more educated/well off?? I was embarassed to be near the girls with starring, and pointing issues so i removed myself from the situation and played with the innocent kids running around the place.

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Iyla u got some crazy wedding stories!! the part about writing the amounts on the clipboard is SOOO wrong and embarrassing :e6: i saw a wedding video on youtube where there was a guy sitting at the table with a clipboard and a pile of money, and at the time i was thinking wtf is he doing lol but now i know! i wanna know ur other story

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It used to be quite a common thing in the UK years ago for family/friends to serve at weddings (not just mirpuri weddings). This has gradually faded out as a trend now. I'm glad it has too, as I feel it's unfair on those helping out as they don't get to chill out and enjoy the day.

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LOL my sisters wedding was in pril,
the guys from our side were helping out serving, my dad, husband and brother and chachu included. we had planned on having only a few servers but loads of men stood up to help and then at the end my dad's chachu's were helping with the clear up too, for us this was normal.

the Rude stuff was actually how the grooms family behaved, they barely let us get any pictures or for all our guests to meet the bride and groom and were literally rushing us to do rukhsati as their limo had to be back by 11pm!!
and they had hired a coach and cos of kids couldn't stay long!!
we were WTH!!!

then on walima they were writing down how much money we were giving!!!
i ignored that 'register list' and just handed the my BIL an envelope