say you have rude little nands who are in their late teens but very *****y…how do you deal with them? you ignore them as much as you can? you give them tit for tat? or some other way?
besides, you feel sick when you see a 20 years old acting like a 2 year old and sitting in her mom’s lap…when i was 15 years old the same girl’s mom was so after me coz i couldn’t make rotis properly and seeing that now her own daughter is so lazy and clumsy angers me. 
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Were you ever nand ?
if yes then ask from your Bhabhi how she deals you 
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my bhabi had her whole family to support her 24 hrs, there were times when i made mistakes but it never came to the point when I answered her back.
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Make her get married to the faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaar away island.
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Make her get married to the faaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaar away island.
or i myself should run away to far away land? i don't live with them, but whenever i visit them they're all rude and sarial. they have already cut off relations with their older bhabi, i of course want to keep the ties. so i was wondering what i should or should not do to maintain the relationships.
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omg.. i have experience on this front. ignoring is the best thing u do. and speaking to them when they initiate a convo. it helps if you are married to an elder brother. u gently express your dissatisfaction , meethi churi ka kaam hey sara!
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omg.. i have experience on this front. ignoring is the best thing u do. and speaking to them when they initiate a convo. it helps if you are married to an elder brother. u gently express your dissatisfaction , meethi churi ka kaam hey sara!
no they don't really care about the brothers being elder or whatever......the other day i was at their place and talking to my husband about getting my hair cut short because i'm finding it hard to maintain long hair in summer when she interrupted and said "shave you head completely".
i obviously was shocked and replied back "how about i shave *your *head first". I guess I messed it up by replying to her, i should've probably stayed silent?
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You need not to run away anywhere just make sure she finds that island. 
Jokes apart, This type of gals do exist and it is really very hard to cope with them. Unfortunately, there can’t be any other option. Its difficult but just ignore them, BUT dont forget to taunt at times that standards should be same for everyone’s daughter. She is not something out of this world.
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What my mom does is keep quiet most of the time when we go to visit them. Avoids giving any sort of advice. Avoids giving her own opinion on their matters (in front of them). She'll just talk about general stuff when she speaks to them. Stuff like music, movies, dramas etc. Brushes off any rude remarks they might make.
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i don't know...i feel it has started effecting my marriage even though i live separately in a different town.
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no they don't really care about the brothers being elder or whatever......the other day i was at their place and talking to my husband about getting my hair cut short because i'm finding it hard to maintain long hair in summer when she interrupted and said "shave you head completely".
i obviously was shocked and replied back "how about i shave *your *head first". I guess I messed it up by replying to her, i should've probably stayed silent?
haha hareem you are so cute!! But that was silly of you
first off you need to figure out for yourself what you want wrt nunds. do u want them in your life as such? to what extent? if you do, then yes you will have to practice tact. If you don't really care then go ahead and treat them as you wish without thinking about the long reaching consequences of your actions.
In the beginning I tried to win over my nunds. Then I realised that I should give just as much as I get. Perhaps a little bit more than that but definitely not give something for nothing. Nunds arent very involved in my life, wont really be but Id still prefer calm waters for the seldom visits I have.
Ek chup sau sukh. Warna baal noochnay pe aa jayen gay sab
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It should not be a big deal if you don't live with them. Imagine if you had to live with them. So be happy with your situation. Just try to be polite and ignore their behaviour and hopefully they will understand you don't want to get into a messy situation with them. I don't see people will keep on being rude if they don't get the expected reaction from you. They expect retaliation from you when they are rude to you and if you don't lose your patience and don't be bad with them, they will soon stop being rude with you.
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I was quite normal with them until i saw them **ing about their eldest bhabi and i thought if they can ** about their eldest bhabi tou phir main kis khait ki mooli hoon?
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another tact is to be overly sweetly sarcastic. pretend to be naive abt it all. but that requires a lot of follow through.
Thing is, jo bhi ho jaye it shudnt affect your married life. Not by the impression u give your husband of the person u can be in giving them tit for tat answers to their rudeness, not by showing him u dont like his family (afterall its his family he will be defensive to some level abt them)
Another tactic ive observed beyond the chup rehna is to play reverse psychology. Ive see people do this in marriages. Like wife will totally encourage the husband to do a LOT for the sisters, he will think shes going too overboard and not do that much. Shes in the safe zone since she is now the good wife and he didnt do all that cos he thinks she is too naive and they dont need that much. Since she didnt get him defensive abt them, he could judge them practically.
U should brush off whatever they say and separate them in ur mind from ur husband. He isnt responsible for what they say and u should understand that. they obviously dont respect him hence are rude with u. Brush it off and make excuses for them. She prolly doesnt have such nice hair as urs hence the snippy remark. Make excuses for them in front of husband in a sincere manner and he will feel closer to u
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and btw hareem perhaps they ***** abt her but not so much abt u. apni position na kharab karo. usually girls can ***** abt one person at a time in the same position. :P abhee bari wali ki bari hey
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Ek chup sau sukh..........................well said.I think the best way to deal with rude relatives
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you cannot become a jaahil to answer back/deal with jahaalat ! since you dont live with them 24/7 , shukr karo aur ignore karo !
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another tact is to be overly sweetly sarcastic. pretend to be naive abt it all. but that requires a lot of follow through.
Thing is, jo bhi ho jaye it shudnt affect your married life. Not by the impression u give your husband of the person u can be in giving them tit for tat answers to their rudeness, not by showing him u dont like his family (afterall its his family he will be defensive to some level abt them)
Another tactic ive observed beyond the chup rehna is to play reverse psychology. Ive see people do this in marriages. Like wife will totally encourage the husband to do a LOT for the sisters, he will think shes going too overboard and not do that much. Shes in the safe zone since she is now the good wife and he didnt do all that cos he thinks she is too naive and they dont need that much. Since she didnt get him defensive abt them, he could judge them practically.
U should brush off whatever they say and separate them in ur mind from ur husband. He isnt responsible for what they say and u should understand that. they obviously dont respect him hence are rude with u. Brush it off and make excuses for them. She prolly doesnt have such nice hair as urs hence the snippy remark. Make excuses for them in front of husband in a sincere manner and he will feel closer to u
demesne, itni ziada planning?
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Choke her.
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Well sadly, some nands I’d say are actually more dominating than MILs are. MILs are usually greatly influenced by their daughters. 
. What I’ve seen is that they tend to compare their brother’s relationship with his wife to their own married lives, then automatically assume the role of either a mentor or a martyr…whatever works.
In your case Hareem, I think you should learn to ignore their comments. They don’t mean bad I suppose. You have to have confidence in your relationship with your husband, and remember that when words come out of the mouth, they are very difficult to reverse.