Roommate is a cookie monster

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well since she lies about not eating your food. i recommend making a batch of your brownies, laced with your favorite laxative. and leave it around for her to "not eat."

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I had a white room mate, never desi. The rules were basic and simple. Keep your hands to yourself, dont go in each others' rooms, no men and notice for parties or get togethers.

I kicked her out in 3 months. :) She was dirrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrty!!! She would use ALL of my stuff, like personal stuff as in deodorant. GROSSSSSSSSSSS!

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keep em in ur closet

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oreocookie- No, I can't kick her out. If there are any problems, we have to talk it out together with the management. The most they can do is put me into another apartment- that's why I was wondering how non-desi/Muslim roommates are.

bigdaddy- maybe guys aren't food monsters or manipulative. I don't want to label my food. People just need to be considerate. And it's impossible to split the utilities bill based on usage. I didn't blame the girl for anything or mention how I wasn't in the apartment much that month. I didn't mention how she left this and that on. I just said that WE should not waste electricity. Then I had to talk with her mommy and daddy- who does that?!

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She sounds like an idiot. I've had my share of bad roomies, mostly Pakistanis.I've had good experience with Chinese and goris(non muslims obviously). These were primarily girls who had lived with other girls in the past and knew the rules. One BAD room mate I had was both pakistani and muslim and came straight from home and made my life pretty miserable.
In my experience stay as far away from girls who've flown straight outta their nest. Also stay away from under grad students (unless you want to flunk). Having a non muslim, non pakistani room mate shouldn't be an issue. The person should simply keep to her own space and not take over your life or distract you from your work. grad school can be tough, the last thing you want is to worry about your roomie.

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btw, I so wanna slap your roomie across the face. or pay someone to egg her!!

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dooree- what's sad is that she left the nest a long time ago. She's 24 and has been living with roomies since she was 18.

Reha- EWWW, that's gross! Did you live with another non-desi roommate after that?

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sooo does she buy no food herself?

next time you buy these special cookies, buy her a box too. she'l lget the ideaaaa

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I understand exactly where you're coming from but at the same time I feel you're being a tad idealistic here by wanting her to change her behavior. There's nothing wrong with that, but certain situations call for practicality if just for hte sake of your own sanity.

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^ okay I am even MORE tempted to egg her now.

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what is so dirty about that .. honestly .. now if she was using your tooth brush then I understand but deodorant stick! really?

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when we're colleging we tend to be over dramaaaaaaticccccccc.

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She used my deodorant stick, toothbrush, socks, food, etc. The worst part is I found weed in the apartment...I had no idea it was weed...I thought it was OREGANO!!!!!!!!!!!! I thought it was so weird that she had Oregano in her sock drawer (which was full of my socks)...until I was telling someone and they started laughing at me...

She had to go after that...otherwise I would tell her parents. :)

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Buy a small closet with a lock which you can put in the kitchen or buy a suitcase for all your dry stuff. You might even have an old suitcase with a lock and key laying around somewhere in your house.

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You can find another way/place to store your food that would be more out of your reach. You can consider complaining to authorities that manage apartment/roommate issues. OR…

To all the foods in your pantry, attach post-it notes with “friendly reminders.” For example:

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“Tut tut tut. God is watching when your roomie isn’t”** :ast:
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“Haaaaw, Baysharam, Bayghairat, Bayhayaa, Chori karti hai.”
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“Your theft (petty as it is) is being video taped. Will be sent to apartment authorities…and America’s Saddest Home Videos”**

Place hidden cameras. If you catch her, you can use the evidence as blackmail.

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hmmm, maybe I could tie a chain and lock around a cabinet and keep my food in there.

lifeless- No, I haven’t really seen her bring bags of groceries. I’m guessing she gets groceries once a month. And sometimes I feel like I’m being overdramatic, that’s why I wanted to know if I’m over-reacting.

Reha- Oregano, aww! I think she’d have oregano if you gave her really stinky socks.

Magic8Ball- No, there are no other roommates, just me and her. :rotfl: at the first three, but I’ll consider using the last two.

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^ you lick your food items and she sees you and she still eats it?

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Maybe you're just imagining things and you're actually eating them? It amazes me how fast I go through all my food, and I sure don't keep track of how many yogurts I have in the refrigerator.

Even if you have some inventory checklist, you may still be making a mistake and thinking she ate something when you already ate it.

If you think she really is eating the food, and the disparity is that great between you (like she is doing zero groceries, only eating your food, and then lying to your face about it), then you need to confront her.

Otherwise, I never get in people's faces when they eat my stuff. Food is not something muslims should be fighting over and denying other people to have, IMHO, so if my old roomie would tell me she got hungry over the weekend and ate all my ice cream cuz she couldn't resist, I would laugh and tell her its totally ok, not a problem.

You never know when the day will come that someone stingy wont give YOU something to eat the day you're starving.

And honestly, who knows, maybe she has some financial issues, and she can't buy much food?

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Try approaching (don't know if you already have as I haven't read the other posts). And in a non-accusatory talk to her and make up a story/example if you have to. "You know, I think it's odd that some of my food is missing. In my old dorm, people assumed that they didn't have to ask to eat your food. It's nothing short of stealing. And now my food is disappearing again. Maybe I'm losing track of my food or there's a jinn in this apartment."

If she gets defensive and says, "Are you accusing me of stealing?" Just say, "No, I'm not accusing you. Just surprised that my food is disappearing again." Maybe, she'll feel enough of a guilt trip to be more careful. Not a guarantee, but sometimes sneaky hints can work.

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^PCG has a point. Do make sure that your food is being stolen and not that you're losing track of how much you're eating.

I know that food can seem like a "petty" issue to argue over. My mom often says that "khanay walay cheezay pay nahin larna chahiye." And while generosity is a trait that a Muslim should have....MANNERS are also emphasized in Islam. Stealing (one that's proved) is STILL stealing no matter how petty the object may be. The person who bought the food might be struggling a bit with money themselves (even if they may have more money than you do), so it's only polite to ask rather than assume entitlement.

Assuming she can't afford food and is having financial problems, doesn't necessarily mean that the poster has no financial issues at all. For me, I don't mind sharing my food. Many people have a big giving heart, but frequently taking advantage of someone in an underhanded way.....is going to eventually become offensive. Of course, as you mentioned earlier, one has to be SURE that there is theft taking place.