So I live in an apartment with this other Pakistani girl. For quite some time, I’ve been noticing that my food in the pantry is missing or reduced by drastic amounts. I’m getting sick of it because food does cost money. I’m a grad student on student loans, how much can I really afford. My roommate isn’t on student loans. But just because she’s a fellow Pakistani, does that mean that she’s entitled to eat all of my food???! This girl doesn’t have much of her own food either that I can get back at her and eat her food to prove a point. I’ve brought it up with her and she lies that she’s not eating it. There’s no other person in the apartment, just me and her. I’ve gone to the extent of keeping track of how much food is in the pantry, so I know I’m not imagining things. We’ve even established from the very beginning that one section of the pantry is mine, the other is hers- so the food is separate. We don’t do our groceries together. I can’t keep all that food in my room either. I don’t know what to do. Any advice?? Am I over-reacting over food?
No you're not over reacting. Its not even funny how much we students suffer from financial crisis! I don't blame you for getting upset over this. Tell her to stop being a starvation and stop eating your rizq-e-halal!
This might not be a very good idea since ur already trying to save money but if u invest in a small little fridge/cabinet that has a lock that would solve all problems. Here in Ireland they're quite cheap, like from 50 euro. The ones that people take to picnics u know?
So she's a food monster, not just a cookie monster. I don't think you're overreacting. I can't think of anything you can do aside from keeping your food locked up somewhere, or storing less food at a given time. My guess is you would have thought of both these options already if they were practical in your situation.
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No you're not overreacting. She's not your wife or relative or friend that you owe her anything.
I know someone who does this all the time. Deny something that they did even though there's nobody else in the home. Its really frustrating.
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tough call, I had to deal with this too, there was no solution for it other than move in with someone else who you hope will not be a cookie monster and would know manners and would have morals.
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just tell her to keep her mouth shout n dont eat ur stuff .......or may be get a small fridge n lock ur food inside
So she's a food monster, not just a cookie monster. I don't think you're overreacting. I can't think of anything you can do aside from keeping your food locked up somewhere, or storing less food at a given time. My guess is you would have thought of both these options already if they were practical in your situation.
Yeah, more like food monster- soda, water, milk, eggs, cookies, coffee, chocolate, etc.- sigh. Yeah, I've tried keeping food in my room but it's tough when the room is small with books, bags, and papers everywhere. Plus, we can easily get ants in the apartment. It's annoying because I'll all of a sudden realize that I'm out of something caffeinated that I need to study all night, then I make trips to Walmart at 1 am.
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Would it be possible for you to get a small mini-fridge for your bedroom where you can keep perishable goods?
I hope she wouldn't go into your room as well?
tough call, I had to deal with this too, there was no solution for it other than move in with someone else who you hope will not be a cookie monster and would know manners and would have morals.
I've been thinking of doing that, but I live in a really good apartment location-wise and pricewise. I prefer a Muslim or desi roommate too- although now I'm starting to think a gori who drinks, has bacon in the fridge, or has her boyfriend over might not be that bad. If I stay at this apartment, I'm stuck with her for another year or two.
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Lick your cookies in front of her before you put it in pantry/fridge. That should stop her from stealing it
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^ And if it doesnt, the original poster has alot more to worry about.
just tell her to keep her mouth shout n dont eat ur stuff .......or may be get a small fridge n lock ur food inside
Would it be possible for you to get a small mini-fridge for your bedroom where you can keep perishable goods? I hope she wouldn't go into your room as well?
I have a small fridge. It doesn't store much. Maybe 2 containers of salan, 3 water bottles, and little small food items. I can't store my box of dry pasta, cookies, brownies, chips, etc. in it, or a pot full of some food. I just feel like I shouldn't have to worry about my food or stress over it. It's stupid worrying over food instead of studying for something.
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believe me if i would have been instead of u i would have changed the room mate ..lol
Lick your cookies in front of her before you put it in pantry/fridge. That should stop her from stealing it
I'll try it, but I doubt it'll work. I make cookies or brownies and lick the raw cookie dough/batter on the spoon sometimes, dip it into the batter again with my saliva (afterall, they're for me). She sees me doing it and still eats them.
For those of you have lived with non-desi or non-Muslim roommates, how has your experience been?
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Laxatives, anyone? :P
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tell her to split the cost of food as well every month, along with rent and utilities.
tell her to split the cost of food as well every month, along with rent and utilities.
We have separate leases, so rent and utilities is split evenly. I could ask her to pay me back for food, but I have a feeling she'll call her parents and make me talk to them. I once brought up that we should turn off the lights when not in use and not waste electricity because our utilities bill was high (I wasn't even in the apartment much, but still had to pay the high bill). The girl freaked out and called her parents. Her parents then had a talk with me, saying I shouldn't accuse their daughter of the high bill or make her pay my portion (I didn't even tell the girl to pay my part!!).
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^ Wow, she sounds like a spoiled brat! Any way you can kick her out?
Girls are so different when it comes to these things. In college I used to have roomates and never had these issues.
But, you and PCG should move in together. So you can label all your food down to cookies and crackers. Split the electricity bill based on usage and give each other $1 sticky pads as gifts.