Re: Room issue.
Don’t let the replies here get you even more depressed. I can understand how you are feeling. We all process emotions differently and it seems like your issues have been blown out of proportion by you because of your emotional state right now. Things are always worse than they seem when one is depressed. One of the easiest ways to dig ourselves an even deeper hole is to compare what we have with others. I tend to compare myself too and it ends up making me feel a lot worse. Complaining and getting stressed out will not make you feel better nor resolve any issues.
Having said that, you should take what is being given to you and forget the other room even exists if you think you can handle it. I feel you will end up resenting your inlaws if you did that though. I would say speak to your MIL as your husband is suggesting orask your jithani for the room yourself. That way, you won’t at least regret not saying anything. I regret a lot of sh*t because I should have said something but I didn’t. Your inlaws treat your jethani the way they do because she has taught them how to treat her a certain way. No point in being a doormat and waiting until you win them over with your kindness and love. If yours was a temporary situation, I would ask you to suck it up but sounds like you are going to be living this way for a long time. Be yourself and if they don’t like you, you know where you stand. If they like you, you know they like you for you and not the facade you have put up to gain their acceptance. You cannot show compassion to others if you cannot be compassionate to yourself.