Room issue.

[khawateen]

Re: Room issue.

there you go OP.. a much nicer way of putting the same stuff we are saying…

couldnt like your post lishi

@Sehar

You will be going through a major change in your life, despite your efforts to get to know them before your rukhsati, has it really helped? It’s okay to feel nervous about the change, someone elses house until it becomes your own, and the rules that come with it.

Right now - tread carefully, no matter how much you love your husband or he loves you, be aware of what battles you are picking and if they are worth it. They are his family. Your FIL is not going to change once you move, he hasn’t changed for his children or his wife, what makes you think his behavior will change towards you. Since you’ve already spent quite a lot of time with them, any lehaz he may have had early on, he doesn’t have any longer. So yeah, pick your battles wisely. It’s not nice to shove food down peoples throats, but it wouldn’t have hurt to taste it and keep mum. Now that he’s been rude to you, and your MIL acknowledged it, just let it go, he is not going to apologize to you.

And stop comparing yourself to jethani, she has known them a lot longer than you have. You will need to make your own place in their hearts and home, and that will happen if you learn to deal with people appropriately. No one is going to treat you like your parents, learn to accept that. These are different relationships, learn to treat them so.

As for the room issue, I’m not sure why you are creating a fuss before your rukhsati, certainly you aren’t going to be sleeping under the stars. Your husband should be able to speak to HIS family about this, not sure why he’s putting you in the front, despite your lovely relationship with your MIL. Move there first, and then you can figure out how to handle it. Sleeping in a smaller room for a little while is not going to be the end of the world.