Re: Room issue.
oh wow…you even laughed slightly…I guess you can chalk me up for being backwards because by the rules I was brought up that behaviour would have been classed as “argumentative” and with the slight laugh added it would have fallen in the category of “batameezi” since it would suggest that you were mocking him.
your MIL asked if you were upset because you stayed quiet for the rest of the dinner…which, btw would have been seen as passive aggressiveness where I come from.
and even if she did think that her husband was harsh, she obviously did not speak out against him in front of everyone else. she asked you privately…shows class…whereas you defied him publicly even though you knew that nobody messes with him. (btw, what makes you think that you are in a position where you can challenge a man that does not tolerate challenges from his own sons?)
you just finished explaining that you prefer chocolate milk…now you don’t drink milk…so you were lying and making an excuse so you didn’t have to drink the smoothie? what if later he offered you chocolate milk? then what?
at the end of the day I would have taken the glass and taken a sip…wouldn’t have killed me and the small gesture/sacrifice would have made an elder happy. I might have taken him aside and whispered to him, “Abbu mind nahin kariyay ga, magar main doodh nahin peeti. Socha kay aap ko bata doon. Aap ko uss waqt mana nahin kar saktee thee. Hope you understand.” but then again…I’m quite backwards myself.