In love with your partner (get the romantic words, flowers, gifts from them) but the two of you don’t have very much in common and can’t really talk about your work/interests/friends
OR
Friends with your partner, where you can talk about EVERYTHING, you see the world the same way but there’s no sizzling chemistry between you and you’re “comfortable” with each other?
Or maybe better put, would you rather love your partner or be “in love” with your partner - assuming you had to choose. between the two options.
You need a bit of both, I think you know that. These things can't be measred in absolutes. You'll usually have more of one type than the other, so communication is the key to strike the right balance, or something like that yeah whatever
would rather love my partner, the sacrifice/respect/caring/strong bond/friendship than get the superficial flowers/candy with no real connection at all, totally different people in every way......it's like something is being forced to happen that will never happen.
is that physical relationship really necessary, hugs can be given to friends
I don't think I could be just friends. Its too depressing, I'd need the romance side of it and the love, otherwise it would just feel too disappointing. a hubby is for life (for me, hopefully!) so i'd need the chemistry and the love : )
I am IN LOVE with my partner where I can talk about EVERYTHING!!
Who said, what friends can discuss, couples can’t… I discuss every single thing with him, even I am tooooooooooo much comfortable with him, we dont need to think a thousand times to discuss topics which most of the couples cant!!
I remember, one day, I told him, “dear, say we are friends too” and he bluntly said “NO, we are not, we are just hubby and wifey” and that turned me off for a moment.. then I said, why can’t we be friends?? and he said, “..because friends dont share that much..that we do!!” and I was like yeah, he was right!! we were not friends, we were more than that!! some may not get it…but you need to think too deep to be agreed with it
I’d rather be in love with my partner b/c along with love comes this territory of respect. And thrill and enjoyment of each other’s company. And I would def. want a respect and love aspect, eventually it’s bound to turn into friendship, no?
I’m just glad me and him are best friends and deeply care and love each other. I wouldn’t have it any other way.
Maybe it IS possible..............but I imagine it would be hard to have that "romantic" connection with your partner if you have nothing in common with your partner and on top of that...can't even talk to them about the most basic of things.
In love with your partner (get the romantic words, flowers, gifts from them) but the two of you don't have very much in common and can't really talk about your work/interests/friends
OR
Friends with your partner, where you can talk about EVERYTHING, you see the world the same way but there's no sizzling chemistry between you and you're "comfortable" with each other?
Or maybe better put, would you rather love your partner or be "in love" with your partner - assuming you had to choose. between the two options.
Bring on the mush! I have friends enough. Not searching for a friend in the partner!
In love with your partner (get the romantic words, flowers, gifts from them) but the two of you don't have very much in common and can't really talk about your work/interests/friends
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but see with this, if you're in love with the guy but nothing else is there in terms of a strong foundation for the relationship then i just feel like that initial feeling of "love" will fizzle out. i mean that's a lot of pressure on "love" where everything the relationship is about is based on this "in love" state that i'm supposed to be in.
i think in the second case the sizzling chemistry/passion/intensity can be created if the comfort level exists and there is caring there since both are friends. friends can fall in love it happens all the time in arranged marriage scenarios and that attraction can happen. most things in life aren't so black and white
is marriage just sex though? i mean if they disagree about everything then i wouldn’t want such a marriage. I feel like that whole opposites attract thing rarely works out. there should be some commonality/compatibility if not in terms of likes atleast in terms of behavior.maybe i’m just different, but i would rather be alone then go through a marriage where there’s an argument/fight every hour
i just feel like if i’m with a man that’s the total opposite of me and we disagree about everything, there’s no understanding/caring between us and the only thing we have is that initial feeling of being “in love”, it will fizzle out and absolutely nothing will be left. that love thing can only take so much and then that dream bubble bursts.
if you look at the marriages that have lasted 40+ yrs there’s a lot more than just the romantic words, flowers, superficial stuff.
Friend. I can never fall in love with anyone until i dont see them as a friend and be able to open up to them. That, plus I am a loyal friend but not a loyal lover. I run away when I am bored when it comes to 'love'.
yeah, he was right!! we were not friends, we were more than that!! some may not get it…but you need to think too deep to be agreed with it 
