Re: Rishtay ka fikkar
i don't know why ppl are not thinking out of the box...
My elder brother recently got married and i got the chance to see some of the styles and ways done in this processes.
Firstly wot is the definition of achay rishtay? if it is that a boy who is wealthy and high up in the food chain with good styles and all this than surely he and his parents will not come into an apartment... simple for them money matters... and ur apartment gives an impression of low income family.... or not equal to their status..
If for u the definition of acha rishta is that a person is well educated and have a rational thinking style, for him and his family money comes after ward than the girl's family educations and ethical backgrounds and teaching and surely if u fullfill their primary requirement than they might overlook the secondary requirement...
My brother wanted to marry a non-working girl so i know my parents went to Androon-sehar like chuburgee and places like that to see girls for him... and they have rejected rishtas of posh-area girls...
So i think ppl are just making an issue out of it where there isn;t any issue... i don;t remember the exact wording of an urdu quote which means "like minded finds like minded"
Although on the personal level i do think the status should be considered to a little extent... i mean the status difference shouldnot be too great between two families else it does create problems... because when u move in a certain status u do have some styles and values embedded in u from ur childhood and they r important for u sometime... so if u go a little too high things might change abruptly and likes of one family becomes dislikes of other family and vise versa.