So i’ve been telling my parents we should sell our house and move into a nice apt somewhere nice.. the house we live in is way too big for just me and ammi, besides im ready for a change.. Mom n dad agree, xcept one thing putting my mom off it is that “acchay rishtay nahi ayengaye apartment mein”.. 
I mean.. what the hell is tht all abt? I’m not blaming my mom for thinking that way (not that much anyway) but why shud she worry abt it.. why wud rishta ppl be so frekain materialistic that htey think a grl who lives in an apt doesnt come from a gud family? 
And Im telling my dad, thas no way to make decisions or live a life, to worry about what some rishtas will think when they see you.. uff, its so stupid 
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sigh they aren't going to change.......
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mummi se bolo jaggah ghar mein nahi dil mein honi chahiyay… 
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I dont care.. I just think its very stupid to make pretty much every decision based on “rishta aye ga ke nahi?” My dad says its their responsibility to worry and make sure that gud rishtas will come no matter hwat.. Shukar hai ke ammi said I can find a guy on my own :biggthumb
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Sara, I understand where your parents are coming from. Unfortunately, a lot of people these days are materialistic to the point where it matters how big your house is and what kind of car you drive and all these things come into consideration when it comes to whether your family is good enough for the guy and his family. It's ridiculous, but that's how a lot of people are.
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What if its the other way around. The rishta guys family lives in an appartment. How wud u or ur parents think abt that?
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amreeka mein rihaish shuda ladies kay liay....tip: the smaller the guy's house, the less time you will need to spend cleaning it.
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Yeah mehnaz, thas why I dont blame ammi for thinking that way, even though I think its pretty stupid.. this whole rishta process is pretty much based on looks, money, status etc, nothing of substance really… personality n character n stuff comes afterwards, after the engagement/haan kehna/marriage..its just so awkward n weird, esp when ammis telling u to check out that guy sitting six feet away from you 
Danish, mmm I dunno.. i personally wudnt mind living in an apt (alone with hubby thougH :halo: ) for the first few yrs of marriage.. but when kids come along, I want a house n have both sets of parents move in 
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i’d accept u even if u are living in a jungle 
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I think if its a love marriage, u can afford to let go a few nakhray (he or she gotta be this and that and that and that) simply coz ur crazy abt that person… but if/when its a arranged mariage, I think its fair to have ur standards.. 
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if the "rishta" cares about apartment/big house, then its not a ACHAA rishtaa in the first place !!!
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he will do cleaning as well
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Even if its arranged, its tupid to look at things like these...
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and more time to clean his pocket & bank account and wallet. :D :p
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Well, no its not stupid.. imean family bkground is important, but to reject someone or assume things abt their character or background because of where they live is kinda retarded..
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thats what I meant....
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Sarah!
Lets ask you a question?
Your daughter gets a rishta from a guy.... guy lives close to anaar kali bazaar - he promises to keep your daughter happy and what not. There is no love shove involved.
While you on the other hand live in Gulberg in a nice Kooothii.
would you accpet that guy for your daughter?
Be practical :~) when you give answer to this.
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SARAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA 
I’d check out everything.. his education, lifestyle, his family (specifically his mom n sisters :D) and how he intends to keep the promise of keeping her happy (his job).. i’d leave the final decision upto her, fi she is easily able to adapt to a situatoin (i.e., marry into a lower economic class) then why not..
BUT! What if the grl is from anarkali bazaar n guy frm gulberg? Shud the family reject her becoz she has a chota sa ghar? To me, it sounds like when larkaywalay look at a grls family n thier money, they think how much dowry she’ll bring.. when its hte other way around, its coz traditionally men r xpected to support the family haina?
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^^ Sara, not always a guy's family is looking for a dowry...sometimes they just care about what other ppl are going to think....ke unki bahoo kissi barre ghar ki baiti hai. It is a ridiculous idea but i have seen it happen. People feel ashamed if their daughter in law is from a lower class, etc.
