Rishtas & Issues

[Miss_Mohabbat]

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@Muslim_Queen

But ofcourse it is. We wouldnt want it any other way. Missy love, the 101 for English teachers, never use another person’s friend’s name in the examples of sarcasm.

i could have been referring to my sister Sarah, your the one who made that conclusion/connection love, not me

and as for the sarcasm, i dont remember specifying which part of my comment was in fact sarcastic, agian, you decided that for yourself.

Selvetive reading, is that included in the 101 of teaching?

[Miss_Mohabbat]

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@Muslim_Queen

But ofcourse it is. We wouldnt want it any other way. Missy love, the 101 for English teachers, never use another person’s friend’s name in the examples of sarcasm.

Now I do think we’re ruining this thread.

as for sisterhood - thats just not my thing. I prefer being able to live life without being involved in all the “groups.”

but you already belong to a group, you’v stated that so many times, we all belong to groups, every person is an individual, a group is not limited to the number of members.

i guess your right, this is my last comment.

sorry for ruining the thread.

[Muslim_Queen]

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@Miss_Mohabbat

i could have been referring to my sister Sarah, your the one who made that conclusion/connection love, not me

and as for the sarcasm, i dont remember specifying which part of my comment was in fact sarcastic, agian, you decided that for yourself.

Selvetive reading, is that included in the 101 of teaching?

From the comments towards my sarah its only obvious who you were referring to. And you would only bring up an example I would be familiar with. Missy next time perhaps write a detailed paper on the description of your comment, otherwise as you know we will take it as it has been written. Im not sure your definition of selective reading and mine are anything alike.

ah but Im not too keen about groupings. But you’re free to think as you like.Ty for the offer anyhow.

Now lets not ruin this thread completely Im off tc.

[Miss_Mohabbat]

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selective reading as in this is the internet darling, personal comments and opinions are quite restricted, nobody will ever understand or interpret anybody's comment the way it was intended.

anyways, this has been interesting, i like this kind of bonding with you. take care love.:)

[ahmadjee]

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Diva,

In the US, it is a very grass root problem, where girls are ready to get married on average around 20+ but the guys usually become serious about anything around 28-30+, which wouldn’t be a problem if the girls weren’t looking for someone around their own age or more or less 2-3 years older. This whole difference comes from the way they are brought up, where the guys are allowed to assimilate with the outside world & thus go for the more culturally accepted age of getting married in US, while the girls are brought up with the sole idea to get engaged while in school & be married the minute they graduate.

You will be glad to know that in Khuddam meetings this topic is being discussed in great detail and with serious concern. One of the ideas that came to the table was to present successful Khuddam who have married early to share their experiences in meetings & be made in charge to talk to those guys on a one to one basis. IMO, it would make a lot of difference if such topics are discussed in meetings regularly & more openly.

[Diva4U]

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@ahmadjee

Diva,

You will be glad to know that in Khuddam meetings this topic is being discussed in great detail and with serious concern. One of the ideas that came to the table was to present successful Khuddam who have married early to share their experiences in meetings & be made in charge to talk to those guys on a one to one basis. IMO, it would make a lot of difference if such topics are discussed in meetings regularly & more openly.

Ahmadjee :- well, I am glad it is being dicussed but why is anything not being done about it ? The new trend nowadays is that if they cant find a beautiful looking girl, guys are ending up with gori chicks and bringing them to masjid for eid and bakra eid and that is just considered fine. My fury is that if guys continue to do this, where will lajna/ladies go ? So, enough with the talking and discussing the issue and more action needs to be taken.

[Muslim_Queen]

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Well a guy could be ideal as in he has a house/car/job etc, but a girl might not wish to marry him. Its not about ideals in my opinion, its whether they find each other compatible. Some people click, others dont. I dont think its such a big issue.

[system]

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i think it just happens when its meant to be... these things shouldnt be rushed.. at all..

i dont think it has anything to do with looking in the right or wrong places, if you have faith.. u'll know that it happens when u least expect it and when Allah Mian wills it

but having said that.. i think sometimes finding the right rishta has to do with ones expectations... a perfect rishta could be right there infront of u.. (without a job or watever).. u just gotta look beyond the criteria u set..

[mAd_ScIeNtIsT]

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@CM

Just a general knowledge question as i will not get married for the next 10 odd years, what do families actually look for in getting a spouse?

Those qualities already listed are available in alot of men. If they wanted just that they could easily find a guy. Heck Medic is a perfect example. 23. Full Time Job. Gets paid really well. Has his own place. Own car. Dual nationality with a EU country. Good and well documented family background. Extremely good education background. Religious. Shareef would be an under-statement when describing is character. Caring and understands women unlike most men. I mean isn’t this what the ideal husband should be?

But there are other reasons aren’t there. If so what are they?

Just when did you become my pimp?

[CM]

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When i felt you were losing your manhood and started to become one of the girls, which you know is true :D

[Muslim_Queen]

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maddy trust me all we need to see is the car. fluttering eyelashes

[CM]

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LMAO!! She you got one already! You want me to hook you up with a date or are you man enough to do it yourself?

[Muslim_Queen]

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Hes my bhaifriend. I love him to bits.ok I love his car more.:p

[CM]

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Bhaifriend can become boyfriend. I am working on that for him. You will have to get in line he is a hot catch. Heck he gets paid close to a 100,000 Euros.

[Muslim_Queen]

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Im sure we'll manage without your help. Plus when it comes to maddy and I, there are no lines.

maddy when are you bringing your car over.:D

[mAd_ScIeNtIsT]

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@CM

Bhaifriend can become boyfriend. I am working on that for him. You will have to get in line he is a hot catch. Heck he gets paid close to a 100,000 Euros.

I wish

I get paid less than half that much

MQ: Stop nazar lagaying my car

[CM]

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No you don’t. Shh…i am trying to get you laid. So shut the **** up