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kepp asking for Mr perfect and ur bound to be disappointed....this is shocking how?
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That's the problem with arranged marriages, it allows both parties to be fussy and set-preconditions. I was arguing with my parents the other day how messed up arranged marriages can be. I am not against arranged marriages but the system is messed up because everything is based on aesthetics and money. Guys have a long list of what they want in a girl ie domestic goddess, educated, beautiful, good family, speaks english, good religious morals and values and sometimes, same goes with girl and her family. Atleast in a love marriage people are able to overlook some qualities which may be lacking. Our priorities are all wrong and the system needs a major change. Desis are the most superficial people ever.
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I think Pir ji summarised it quite well. Skhan and cat-woman also had good points. Since my parents have been looking for quite a while, I can relate to a lot of things.
1) we arent acquainted with the community that well
2)The families we have met so far have pointed out things like:
a)larki doesnt have perfect skin,
b)not gori enough,
c)not a doctor,
d)wears hijab,
e)my father not being a professional anymore (he was one for 25 years before our stay at the US though, but that doesnt matter)
and so on and so forth.
The things my family has pointed out or I have, not realising how i had digressed from my original view point:
1)he is not educated enough
2)not religious enough
3)not punjabi (this mattered a lot to my mother but now she is finally coming around i think)
In the begining i thought all i wanted was a nice, shareff guy. But since all this, i cannot belive i have added more things to my list which probably doesnt even matter if are having the so called "love-marriage" as opposed to an arranged one. Catty has hit the nail on the head with this one. With an arranged marriage, i dont want to compromise for any qualities that I dont like.
I have been through all this drama so many times, i think i should write a paper on it!
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This thread reminds me of autotrader.com website commercial on TV. I need a woman, 36, half muslim, half devil worshipper, green hair, etc. Pop comes a fit.
http://www.searching4singles.com/religious/muslim.html
http://www.solvedating.com/calc-muslim-singles.html
http://www.twomuslims.com/
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Ira you too huh :) I got rejected on the basis of 'not gori enough', this too coming from an educated, conservative and religious family. The dude was ready to jump to it, until I told him look just in case, thought I might tell you I'm not very gori, wasnt sure if he could tell from my photos, so I wanted to re-iterate my point. So much for being honest. hehe
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The thing with marriage and relationships is that we are very deliberate about it. We plan, analyze, and over analyze everything. I am willing to give a split second decision a chance. Go with my instincts for once.
Also, for all attraction/looks whores (both male and female), if you were to turn blind by some freak accident, and had to see with your hands, you will learn that your eyes and hands like very different things. :-D
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I guess its times like these that Prophet Mohammad (pbuh) instructed men to have more than one wife. I am accepting applications for three more. PM me your resume.
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something completely different. 
Is this Lussi and Pakora s field?
What about CM?
I thought he got married last year 
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Dude i am no way married. Will not be married for a good 10 years. Where do you get such ideas? I prefer my bachelorhood :D
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^that just means youv been rejected so many times before you can say "wait, im not really gay"
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Missy Im surprised men dont want to change their genders, seeing as how most women actually are. :p
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I am 23, why the hell would i want to get married or even thing of something so stupid. I mean i still got enough sins to finsih off before i get married.
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why would they want to change their genders?
i hope you not turning into a Sarah love, women who dislike other women are not real women. you need to rejoice your sisterhood.
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C'est la vie. I have to keep reminding myself females are the weaker species and thus their rants must be taken with a stiff upper lip.
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Missy my dear thats quite insulting to sarah you know. One should respect others- its a rule of life- whether one likes to or not. Sarah is a sweetheart and I have a lot of respect for her. Please in the future do not make such comments.
Sisterhood? No love, I prefer to take a different route than the masses. 
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Sarcasm my dear english teacher, read with expression.
oh and sisterhood isnt limited to just those women who wear Hijab, all women, regardless of age, culture, religion, locality, marital status deserve respect, as do some members of the male species.
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LMAO!!. The irony.
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Is that to make me feel better?
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why do i need to make u feel better? you can read what i wrote however you want, sarcasm or not. thats your choice.
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But ofcourse it is. We wouldnt want it any other way. Missy love, the 101 for English teachers, never use another person’s friend’s name in the examples of sarcasm. 
Now I do think we’re ruining this thread.
as for sisterhood - thats just not my thing. I prefer being able to live life without being involved in all the “groups.”