rishtas in the west

Lifestyle Relationships
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I agree with the first part, but u know go to threads within GS and see what girls want and then tell me if they arebeing realistic. u know there are only so many tall, fit, handsome, rich dudes around :)

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^ And they're taken :p

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no..sadly some of them have their own issues in finding the right person.
a good pal of mine a europe raised cardiologist finally married last year, the guy is older than me, and I have been married for 10 years, he had been looking for 8 years or so. married an arab girl in the end.

another pal of mine, he has no clue what he wants and moves from ultra traditional types to very liberal types, this is an ivy educated architect, good looking guy, greta family, but he is too wishy washy.

then I know guys who have asked me to help and they say oh thegirl should only be muslim and preferably desi, I introduce them to someone and its like oh i prefer punjabi and she is baluchi, or she is not tall nuff. I am like listen jack, u tell me what u r looking for and yeah u cant write all down but atleast tell me hieght, sect, ethnicity, education level etc etc ..

I hate the match making stuff especially when ppl just flip flop and waste others time

anyways point being that when ppl dont have realistic expectations and opportunities to meet people, even if they are good looking and successful types they will just not get anywhere.

Aaj Kiss Baat Par Gussa Aaya ??????
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Mm, i was basing this on real life, u know hearing stupid crap since bachpan, lose weight or i wont find a great hubby etc..As for whats posted here, i thnk theres a big line btwn appreciating the fantasy and being realistic and/or content w/ what u have...No doubt the fit, good looking rich guy wud make a good husband but he won't be a good husband just by being fit and good looking and rich..Like in your nxt post over hte wishy-washy types. Everybody has something fked up abt them, some hide it better than others, whether intentional or not.

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yeah but u have to see what screwed up about whom.
I mean would a girl rather find out her husband is abusive than she finds out that he had physical relationships in his past type of thing.

I suppose the answers will vary by the person, but not all skeletons in the closet are created equal :)

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well i dint have past physical relationships or abuse in mind when I wrote that.. but yeah , ur right...anwyays my point was, those certain criteria that ppl have in their minds..that's not what's going to make someone a decent spouse.

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indeed i agree 100% with u on it
ppl have too long of a list of must haves
while my view is the must haves need to be a short list,
nice to haves can be a longer list
and added pluses a diff list

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A few ladies on our street could do with reading this thread.

Interesting views/points discussed, diggin what Sahar has had to say. :k:

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I want a handsome, elegant, stylish, and most importantly a rich guy. I love posh cars and diamonds. Lots of diamonds, unlike Meera I love gold too, lot of it. :wink: If he isn’t all that good looking, its ok. Plastic surgery zindabad!
For haq meher, I want him to transfer all his assets on my name. Since it is my islamic right to ask whatever I want so this should be completely acceptable. I think my demands are very reasonable and realistic. Unlike Meera, I don’t discriminate b/w diamond and gold. I accept both. :wink:
And I think my list is very short and concise. Right na? :slight_smile:

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Usney tumhe lussi bana kar pee jaana hai :smilestar: You can ask for as much as you want as it’s your right. The real question is whether he will be able to meet/live up to your demands :smiley:

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Who is Meera?

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shiki go and read again what i said is most important :smiley:

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I read it. You would be surprised that rich people can ask for jahez without any problem but when it comes to giving something to her/them, they scream when it comes to paying high haq mehar :p

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Ok, let me add that rich dude should be more westernize and belive that jahez is a curse on desi society :D

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Why marry ? just live in ! :D

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You are very chalak lusi :naraz:

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please make sure you have your demand list checked by a lawyer, it wont be much help if u get all his “asserts” while he keeps all the “assets”

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that was a typo...lol and you just checked it so no worries :D

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there is nothing tangible, on which a marriage ought to be based.
marriages ought to be based on intangibles such as character integrity.
best,
Dushwari

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make sure that he is not transferring all his liabilities too! :smiley:

else soundz like a nice plan. and now all you gotta do is find a guy :k: