My biggest pet peeve - when everyone but the guy comes for a look-see. Argh!
I paid several hundred dollars to delay flying out (I was visiting relatives). The guy’s family sent out a last minute request for an introduction and my family said okay, invite them over. The guy’s mum, younger brother and chacha come to visit for the chai and look-see. They had to drive one and a half hours and the guy was “too busy”. I was like WTF!! I’m here from 800 miles away and I made an effort and your son is too busy.
The second time, this other lady who was my mum’s acquaintaince from waaay back, she and her husband drove in from out of town with her son to attend a family event in our city. The mum and dad show up at 10pm and when my mum asked “aap apnay beta ko nahin saat laeen” she says, “woh drive kai baad thak gaya tha”. **In both cases only after the mums had done the look-see and given their approval did they introduce me to their sons.X against them - hence it didn’t go anywhere.
I haven’t listed the number of times the potential rishtas have done this but honestly what bad manners!!
I hate that as well, it’s so arrogant for mothers to think their sons should only see the girl after they’ve looked her over and given their approval, as tho they’re looking for some prized pet.