Is there a code as to how you should behave on a rishtaa day, and more importantly, do people know about it?
I’m hearing stories of total careless behavior - like showing up for a rishtaa meeting with a potential family without being properly groomed, or being awkward in your conversations with the opposite families, or being too demanding of the other family, or being rude, etc.
Seriously…do people not know they’re supposed to be on their best behavior?
define best behaviour.
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Never been on the rishtaa parade, so I'm asking you guys - what is the appropropriate behavior? Because some of the stories I hear have my hair standing on end.
I believe nt everyone can be gorgeous or beautiful but everyone should be atleast well groomed. That's what everyone can do and is capable of doing. And why only at the time of rishta? i think all the time one should be well groomed. And ofcourse well groomed doesnt mean u have to be suited n booted 24/7.
And ofcourse try and be at yr behavior, no giggling, no tanturums, no disinterested look i guess :D. Must be hard but oh well.............lol.
On a serious note, i dnt think the whole process of rishta here is quite right. Its more like u r going shopping rolleyes. I think its always better to look for potential rishta among yr family friends and can see each other during a party/wedding. Otherwise it cud be very uncomfortable, i have been to quite a few rishta meetings when we were looking for a girl for my bro and it use to make me so uncomfortable so i can imagine what the girls must be going thru.
Watch from 2:50. Perfect behaviour :k: as far as desi moms are concerned.
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an Indian movie?
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lol@ the video. I really really hope i never have to go thru this rishta thing, Unless i've known the guy b4 hand. It really makes me soo nervous thinking about it.
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wear nice clothes
don't wear too much makeup
be confident and funny
talk but don't divuldge your life history or your plans for the next 30 years
same rules for the first date.
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Decent, tell us what happened at your rishtaa chai-shai introduction to all the women you were introduced to.
Your own advice on do's and dont's.
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Decent, tell us what happened at your rishtaa chai-shai introduction to all the women you were introduced to.
Your own advice on do's and dont's.
I have posted my story many times. My parents (and I myself) are strictly against the "Lerkee daikhoo" picnics. When I was in college at that time ammi said was like
"look XXXX, I'll not be doing this muft khoree at lerkee homes. If you find someone, tell us warna hameen bata daina, we can find some one for you"
So I was visiting Pakistan and this common friend of ours made up a story that we need to rent a house. My MIL was giving first floor of her house for rent. So I, my mom and that common friend went there. I met my MIL, BIL, and one of the SIL. "lerkee" gave me the tour of the house not knowing that I was taking more interest in her than house ;). She was not in make-up or lerkee-daikhoo-type cloths. Just everyday cloths (plain, simple yet aaaah... killer) Had almost hour long discussion/tour with her. She was studying in my X university so we found lots of things to talk about.
I also found some common topics with 'lerkee' k bhai , had long chat with the family. Just general talk etc. They offered us Tea and samosey as far as I remember that was pretty much it.
when proper proposal was sent int, they did some back-ground investigation over in Pakistan and mostly in US. I talked to them few times and talked to "lerkee" 3-4 times before they said HAAN.
not too many twists in my story huh?
Needless to say: I still bug her and ask for "house tour" :D
My serious advise: Be your self. Dress nicely and stuff but dont fake yourself !
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My cousin had a rishta come over, she came home from work it was pissing it down, and she looked like a drowned rat.
Anyway, She forgot her key and she was banging on the front door banging on the window screaming and shouting 'open the $%$%@# door, i've forgotton my @#$#% key' Literally screaming like shes getting murderd.
She came in realised there was guests, Put on a cheeky smile and she salaam'd everyone.
The family didnt contact them again, But the guy liked her so much, that he found her on fb. They chatted for abit. But wasnt really her cup of tea.
The end.
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My biggest pet peeve - when everyone but the guy comes for a look-see. Argh!
I paid several hundred dollars to delay flying out (I was visiting relatives). The guy's family sent out a last minute request for an introduction and my family said okay, invite them over. The guy's mum, younger brother and chacha come to visit for the chai and look-see. They had to drive one and a half hours and the guy was "too busy". I was like WTF!! I'm here from 800 miles away and I made an effort and your son is too busy.
The second time, this other lady who was my mum's acquaintaince from waaay back, she and her husband drove in from out of town with her son to attend a family event in our city. The mum and dad show up at 10pm and when my mum asked "aap apnay beta ko nahin saat laeen" she says, "woh drive kai baad thak gaya tha". In both cases only after the mums had done the look-see and given their approval did they introduce me to their sons.
But their actions were a big black X against them - hence it didn't go anywhere.
I haven't listed the number of times the potential rishtas have done this but honestly what bad manners!!
^ what's worse is not contacting the girls' family afterwards.... they just eat a 7 course dinner and disappear.
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You should just serve them chai and samosa like we did :p
To be very frank, I don't even remember my rishta parade much, even though it went on for 5 years.... LOL.
Methinks the auntyjis got a little sneaky with the flash-photography and your pics ended up on RateDesi.com! ;-)
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^ LOOOOOOOOOOL!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Methinks the auntyjis got a little sneaky with the flash-photography and your pics ended up on RateDesi.com! ;-)
Astaghfirullah.
I refuse to serve dinner to rishta visitors. I’m done with entertaining - at the most, it’s chai-nashta and depending on the quality of the guy (my mum has no concept how to say no to people who want to visit - she says agar hum mana karengey, Allah koh shayad hamari baat buree lagjaygi - so she lets anyone come), it will either be ghar ki intezaam or store-bought. Keep in mind my mum is a super fabulous cook - so the guy’s family is definitely missing out when we don’t do home-made but we’ve had so many families visit (I’m one of 4 daughters) that I can’t be bothered with the effort any more 