Ok…mum and dad have hit the brink and they have had enough of me moaning and groaning and refusing to take marriage seriously!
So we have have a family coming over on Saturday. I’ve spoken to the guy a couple of times, he seems quite nice, but it will be so wierd being in that rishta situation that I’ve been avoiding for a long time 
Anyways can’t wrangle out of it, but do you guys have any tips to help me get through it easily…oh or even better! any tips to help me get out of it? LOL
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soching
never been in that situation but just be there and be in gud manner and you will pass through it in no time i’f you’ve already spoken to the guy then thats a plus point on ur side rite:D
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^ sighz.. what the world is coming to! the PAGALS are making sense!
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So we have have a family coming over on Saturday. I've spoken to the guy a couple of times, he seems quite nice, but it will be so wierd being in that rishta situation that I've been avoiding for a long time :(
Anyways can't wrangle out of it, but do you guys have any tips to help me get through it easily....oh or even better! any tips to help me get out of it? LOL
Rishtas meetings can be a lot of fun with right people around. Have older siblings/cousins (those you are friends with) present so you and the lad are a part of a group, initially. They can start & carry the convo until you and and him can chime and eventually start yapping together.
Treat it like a social meeting and nothing more. You'll learns some things about him and he about you. It's a start. What happens afterwards depends on many factors.
So, relax, enjoy, have a good laugh or too, and good luck! :)
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remember, to put a scarf on ur head, when serving the tea, be all shy and sharmili, smile and sit opposite him and blow him kisses.
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Be on your badest behavior and if that family still wants you, you can be sure they will love your good side.
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Well If I can put in my 2 cents, I would say that use this time before the official engagement to discuss serious matters, matters which would likely be able to tell you how compatible you two are. For example, children (if desired or not), living arrangements after marriage (alone or with his family), Religious inclinations and such and such.
Many ppl in such arranged marriage cases are so over whelmed by the introduction of their future potential partner that they try to impress the other with their sense of humor or achievements in life (ok, usually men) that these important matters dont show up untill after the marriage, which could cause serious damage in the long run. Plus there are also whole families involved which make things even more different for the potential couple.
In the end, both should have the maturity and the courage to peacefully annul the rishta (before the official engagement) if any uncompromiseable situation arises, and hopefully without there being any sourness between the two families.
:) good luck
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So we have have a family coming over on Saturday. I've spoken to the guy a couple of times, he seems quite nice, but it will be so wierd being in that rishta situation that I've been avoiding for a long time :(
Anyways can't wrangle out of it, but do you guys have any tips to help me get through it easily....oh or even better! any tips to help me get out of it? LOL
**Insist on a Blood Test....:D **
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LOL
thanks for all your tips guys…seriously I hate being in these situations when all eyes are on you bla blaa…
p.s theres no way i’m doing the chai drama…it will be hi hello bye with me haha!
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lol:hehe:
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what ahmadjee said..it worked for me 
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Before the formal chai-coffee deal the guy and girl should meet alone, in a public place ofcourse, so that they can talk...if they like each other, then the families should meet formally.
I'm so glad more and more desi parents are opting for this route nowadays, albeit some are still stuck in the dark ages.
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Puchi Kuchi, are you worried that they will ask for your hand?
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be yourself
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I so much Agree with what Lost&found has said...
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Like phatty said, be yourself.
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have confidence and behave normal :) u have already spoken to guy right and don't do chaii thing
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lol...i'm going to see someone this weekend too, it should be fun.
oh as for tips, err, err, yeah what ahmadjee said.
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Say your tired and want to get some sleep! That usually works with me, especially when relatives are around! The downside is sometimes they are near your bed, so you really will have to lay down on the bed with your eyes open in the dark!!!
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PK, knowing you from GS, I Know that you are a level headed girl with strong morals.
The situation is only being a pain because you feel awkwards towards the whole scenario.
So take the awkwardness out of it yourself.
The first thing you need to do is sit and have a chat with your ownself.
a. Are you ready to get married at this time?
b. What are your long term goals?
c. What are the Dos and Donts that you hold dear to your heart
When you find the answers to your questions then it'll make it easier for you.