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Hmm, well she's probably not sure if you liked her either given the restricted setting. So, has the girl's family invited you guys....as in did they give a date for you to come visit them? If so, then visit her with your family....and after that you can add her on FB if things go well when you both meet up.
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Hmm, well she's probably not sure if you liked her either given the restricted setting. So, has the girl's family invited you guys....as in did they give a date for you to come visit them? If so, then visit her with your family....and after that you can add her on FB if things go well when you both meet up.
It has been a week now, they said they will invite us but I haven't heard anything regarding it. My mom said things like that take time. But mein utavala go rana hoon
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If you initiate any type of contact with her right now, it makes you look desperate. If the girl/her parents truly liked you, they will arrange a date with your mother for a dinner or whatever. After the SECOND meeting, if things go well.....then you can add her on FB or whatever.
The girl can like you as much as she wants but if her parents don't want this to go further......then its stupid to pursue this. And the only way you will know that her parents approve of you so far is by THEM inviting you/your parents over to their home for a 2nd meeting. Until then, control yourself.
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lol honestly, this sounded like a girl talking about her experience going to a guys house. Even girls aren't that shy. Every single second your 'farishtay' were going away lol.
Anyways, add her & tell her you like her
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Then add her on FB. That might break the ice and if things go well, it could motivate her to inviting your family over. But....in the event that things don't go well.....then it might be awkward for you to have her on FB if she doesn't return your feelings...provided she accepts the FB request in the first place. But, then you could always remove her...should that happen.
So, you can either risk potential awkwardness and befriend her on FB...but be prepared for any outcome (acceptance or rejection). Or you can wait it out...as your mom said it takes time....which tells me that you've talked to her about this rishta and she has an idea you're interested. You could ask her to consider inviting the girl's family over to your home...and see what she says.
So, these are the three options that come to mind so far: add her on fb, wait to receive invite from her family, or ask your mom to take the initiative. Which of these are you comfortable with?
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Im more comfortable with the idea of the family inviting us over for dinner and then giving us some time to speak with each other away from all the aunties and dubious eyed friends.
Okay then problem solved, you've got your answer. You'll just have to wait then and keep your utawalapan in check by staying busy. This girl is just an attractive stranger at this point; nothing more than that....you don't know her, you don't know if she's right for you. The little bit of interaction you had with her tells you little to nothing about her. So, at this point the excitement you're feeling isn't justified. It's a crush...or perhaps less than a crush...it's superficial. It's not worth it to get your hopes up right now. You have to push/remind yourself not to get carried away.
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Desperate!!!.... Please do not add her on FB till you get a confirmation that you were selected/rejected ;)
Selected - you can ask her directly to add you rather than you adding her.....you are boy, show some pride :P
Rejected - Randomly send a message telling you found her on your friends suggested list and thought you could be friends; unless you want to pursue her to change her mind.
Insha-Allah, hope it works out for the best ameen.
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Don't add her!!!! lol. this was a cute story!
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I was so totally entertained by this post! Not that I'm not sympathetic to the rishta plight, but reading a guy's perspective is just different.
Your mom should initiate contact with the girl's family. Either her family will be receptive to a further meeting or will say no. But either way, it is time for the next step. It doesn't take weeks/month's for things to proceed and why remain in limbo wondering what next?
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It has been a week now, they said they will invite us but I haven't heard anything regarding it. My mom said things like that take time. But mein utavala go rana hoon
Just FB. Add her and talk. Don't think over it much. It is not being desperate.
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lol aunties and uncles sure know how to make this process so awkward!
Can you send her a message on FB or email just saying it was nice to meet her and that you'd like to see her again or something like that? Don't "add" her yet.
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Just add her.
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I'd not add her yet...wait a bit and see what happens first.
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Eid cloths: 200$
Eid gifts: 100$
Driving to family friends: $10
Taking a glimpse at girl through lamp: $0.35 worth of electricity
Finding and adding her to FB: priceless!
PS: dont do it. Khuda ko mano. Most of them will think you are a stalker. Meet her 2-3 times and ask her if you guys can exchange your ids
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@Paa_Jee
lol this was a fun read. Don’t contact her on your own yet. If her parents don’t get in touch with you guys in a day or two, have your mom reach out to them and find out what’s the verdict.
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Don't contact her on FB until you guys have met for the second time and only if it goes well obviously.
But this was a fun read. I wish more guys would put their perspective as well.
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Add her after you've met again or she shows some interest.. might come across a bit stalkerish otherwise..