Rishta Issue

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Re: Rishta Issue

@Hulahoop_Queen

LOL, you got to be kidding me when you say no sane guy would take such behaviour! OP is actually right imo. If someone initiates a proposal, then they should not let the girl or her family hanging. That is just disrespectful. It’s his behaviour that’s problematic. When will people understand that if you CANNOT GIVE CLEAR ANSWERS, then why the heck are you even getting married. You are still a freakin kid and immature.

I COMPLETELY agree with this. I’m sure a couple of posters here know but I went through something similar a few months ago and it was REALLY hard to get over mostly because I’m the type of person that needs answers and closure. A family basically was completely pursuing me (going so far as to keeping tabs on me for the past 1-2 years). They came over even though my family was unsure initially, promised us all these things about my education and my future and then when it came time for US to do our research (they had already asked everyone in the community about me and my family) the vanished. POOF. It’s been 4 months and we have heard NOTHING from them. They used to call /email all the time, to the point where I was getting creeped out by it. Even now, even though it’s a no from all of us, there’s a small part of me that wonders if they’ll come back at the end of this year (when he hears back from schools and i hear back about school) and act like nothing ever happened.

LEAVE. while you still can. I know it hurts, but be happy it ended now. Besides that fact that its really batameez of them , think about this…a) the guy may be too dependent on his family…I’m all for a family oriented guy but I need someone that’ll have my back and support me, not run to his mommy. b) leaving ppl hanging is a pet peeve of mine. My family doesn’t do that. If we can’t go somewhere, we cancel and tell them. If we fight, we yell and scream and then start talking to each other 10 mins later. If THIS is how this family handles conflict/problems (by disappearing/ignoring), married life is gonna suck.

@LucyMay

^^ You said it HQ :k:
The daily calls and visiting family every year are ok, but coupled with this guy’s indecision and refusal to communicate with OP it creates a picture of a guy who is over-dependent on his family. If he’s in the rishta process he needs to be able to make these big decisions and stick to them on his own.

refusal to communicate is a HUGE red flag. You guys would be spouses. Communicatoin is vital.