Re: Rishta Demands
Yah, what do you expect when you post on a desi forum, you are going to get the same money hungry desi girls. I don’t own anything myself, what young late 20’s/early 30’s man does? Not many. People look at the family and say your family house, well, its my family house, I have many siblings and my parents are still alive. They are looking at the man’s inheritance as well counting and adding things up.
People can ask for anything of course if they want, no on has to accept any proposal if they don’t want too. All I am saying is the trend lately is becoming very common, either Men demanding or expecting large amounts of gifts and money from the girls side, I’ve seen girls parents buy the newly wed couple new cars, house, and furnish that house etc. I think that is silly, but if that comes out of the parents love for their daughter and they can afford and want to give it, up to them, but I certainly don’t want to be using a bed the girls family bought, nor do I expect or want anything from the girls side.
And then the Haq Mehr, which is supposed to be a reasonable amount which the groom can afford AT THE TIME OF MARRIAGE, sure that is fine, normal and expected. Like I said some people write based on “supposed future earnings” or “to show off to their family that our girl is so amazing the guy wrote such and such huge amount of money”.
Anyway, whoever was advocating above “transferring all my money earnings and property” to the wife or adding her name to it does not make any sense, I don’t know where such and such thing comes from Islamically, we are back to the greedy cultural norms again that the wife wants to “own and chain the husband” to her.
We are talking IN ADDITION to the husband still working and providing everything in life as well. Many of you here are so greedy and want to milk the man out of everything he has, take everything he earns, and god forbid in a divorce, take even more. If anything you are encouraging divorce, you are letting people stay unmarried until they are very old and desperate and miserable.