I was introduced to a potential rishta, talked to him a little bit, then a couple days later both of our whole families met, then him and I basically went on a supervised date with both our moms there so we could decide if we like each other. i really liked him and thought he liked me and that his family would let my family know their decision soon, but it’s been 2 days now…the whole process of meeting each other, meeting the family, getting to know each other…all happened in a week…how long do you think it should take for them to respond…as the girls side i don’t want to show them we are desperate by calling them…it seemed like we had hit it off…do you think he’s not interested afterall?
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give them a week...iA, they will repond in a positive way...in the meantime, you also re-evaluate the whole thing...this time using brain more than the heart! :) it's important to listen to both! :)
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Perhaps they have other potential rishtas they're looking at too. Was that discussed?
Good luck :)
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i hate folks who do that…try to ride on two boats simultaneously! 
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**'aam kii paal TaTolnaa!" **
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Nah I know what you mean, but it’s not uncommon.
But I think if you’re going to look at a rishta, it should be known/ explained if you are or have been in contact with any other potential suitors.
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i think it’s cruel to give hope and NOT follow through…one rishta at a time…this is what it should be like! 
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What did you like about him?
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It seemed like it would be a perfect match, when I thought about it through my head and heart. Plus our families turned out to know each other, so they seemed to be happy with that fact. I'm really sad right now though cuz a lot of people were having dreams about me getting married, and it seemed like he would be the one. He's the only rishta I could say I really liked.........Please keep me in your prayers that InshAllah whatever happens is for the best.
He didn't mention looking at others during the rishta process,so i hope he is not considering others...
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What did you like about him?
I'm really shy, so I wanted to marry someone confident, although he admitted he felt a little shy with me. He was just really confident and interesting, and it was easy to talk to him despite the fact that I'm shy. Plus he's really ambitious, and gave me the right answers when i asked him about certain things...
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It seemed like it would be a perfect match, when I thought about it through my head and heart. Plus our families turned out to know each other, so they seemed to be happy with that fact. I'm really sad right now though cuz a lot of people were having dreams about me getting married, and it seemed like he would be the one. He's the only rishta I could say I really liked.........Please keep me in your prayers that InshAllah whatever happens is for the best.
He didn't mention looking at others during the rishta process,so i hope he is not considering others...
Insha Allah, if it's meant to happen it will.
It's always scary when you get emotionally attached to a potential rishta.
But if they haven't contacted you guys isn't a reason to be sad :( They might just be contacting their extended family to get their opinions and stuff.
There's tons of fish in the sea. What's meant to happen will. :)
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One thing is that the mom didn't really talk to me at all, she seemed to want it to be entirely her son's decision..which i thought was good actually......but you think maybe she suggested to him to take a couple days to think about it? I mean he liked me enough to tell us he wanted to meet again, plus our families to meet etc.
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It's understandable to be stressed and want things to happen with out delay, but there might a good reason you didn't get a yes or a no right away.
Like KKF said, maybe you and your family need to feel the situation out and make sure this is what you all want too.
If he liked you and openly showed that, then just sit back and wait. If you don't hear back from them by the end of the week, there's no harm in your parents making a "check in" call just to feel out the situation, either way.
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give it time..if its meant to be then it will happen. Inshallah
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i think it's cruel to give hope and NOT follow through...one rishta at a time...this is what it should be like! :)
True!
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i hate that i keep thinking about this...but do you think they expect us to tell them yes or no? the way we said goodbye didn't really make anything clear about who would be contacting who..
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The guy's side is suppose to call and ask to proceed further according to norm. If they haven't called back its a sign they don't wish to move forward or are confused. I know - you don't want to hear this but if they were interested they would've called by now as the 1st three meetings took place within a week. Although I see no harm in your parents calling and just asking whats going on. Atleast you will know and can move on.
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This whole process is pretty passive unfortunately. People take their sweet time, for whatever reason: they're busy, they're looking at other rishtas, or--yes, they may not be interested. You just have to sit back and wait at this point. I know how it feels, I'll keep you in my duas. And if this is best for you then iA it'll happen! Keep us updated!
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This whole process is pretty passive unfortunately. People take their sweet time, for whatever reason: they're busy, they're looking at other rishtas, or--yes, they may not be interested. You just have to sit back and wait at this point. I know how it feels, I'll keep you in my duas. And if this is best for you then iA it'll happen! Keep us updated!
It's passive only if they are not sure and or looking at other rishtas. If they really like the rishta they will be sure to get back to the other family.
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thanks soconfused n miss mano...the reason we were able to meet 3 times in one week was bc we both happen to be attending the same event in the same city..otherwise we live in different states and now we r back in our hometowns
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give them a week.if they dont call, call them and like get a clearer picture. Its all a stupid process where there are no rules basically.You make your own rules.