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talk about dropping hints!
LMAO! Not as provocative as people may think!
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Ok, personally, I divorced my ex because he** a. He Couldnt keep it in his pants*. B. didn't provide a single penny of financial support c. His mother thought I was her personal slave. **But mostly a.*
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You mean he was cheating or just over sexed ?
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More often than not, those who seek divorce are not the abused and wronged. They are the selfish and demanding ones who feel their partner isnt attractive, wealthy, interesting enough. They are the ones who feel they can do better.
Nothing wrong with that either.
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More often than not, those who seek divorce are not the abused and wronged. They are the selfish and demanding ones who feel their partner isnt attractive, wealthy, interesting enough. They are the ones who feel they can do better.
Nothing wrong with that either.
So tho those who aren't abused or wronged must be selfish and demanding?
How mature..
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@ufsana Its good that you got separated from that miserable dude ….. if you don’t mind me asking,did not you know that beforehand that he could not keep it in his pants & he is a characterless person….. did not you investigate about it before marriage or he just changed all of a sudden after marriage because you guys have a kid together?.... did not you know about his mother, i mean you must have met her before marriage, one can get an idea though? Did not you have an engagement period or something to get to know each other, his family & discuss things?
Of course we investigated. His family and my family had a couple of common friends. It wasn't until after my mom told these friends that I had asked for a divorce that they came out all ex-mil bashing and even his cousins called me to tell me even more stuff that had happened. And frankly, I don't expect any pakistani family in the west to tell the truth. I have never seen a more jealous or competitive lot of ppl more obsessed with brands and image. As my khala says, ppl would rather have the nice girls marry the bad boys and leave the nice boys for the chalak girls.
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So what’s happening in Saudi Arabia?
There is NO simplistic answer (inc the East v West cr*p) to the increasing divorce rates.. It’s down to a number of different factors..
Also amusing (and predictable) to see how some are so quick to blame the women.. Yes, how evil of them to actually want to walk away from a bad relationship 
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You mean he was cheating or just over sexed ?
He cheated with anything that had the capability of opening it's legs. He even cheated with his own sisters underage class fellows. Married, underage, patients, didn't matter. 2 women's husbands threatened to kill him. But in the end, his family said the reason I left was because my parents wanted my money. Go figure. Even when their friends snapped a picture of him with his latest girlfriend at the time and sent it to everyone in the community they still refused to acknowledge the truth.
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So tho those who aren't abused or wronged must be selfish and demanding?
How mature..
Not in every case. Some are just bored, 'unfulfilled' and want to "see whats out there"
I was talking in a western context btw.
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More often than not, those who seek divorce are not the abused and wronged. They are the selfish and demanding ones who feel their partner isnt attractive, wealthy, interesting enough. They are the ones who feel they can do better.
Nothing wrong with that either.
I'ld rather be selfish and demanding than catch AIDs thank you very much. And my story is like fluffy cotton candy compared to the stories of the women in my divorced muslim support group. And it's not just the women. The men have some equally horrible stories. I suffered for a decade because of the fear of social stigma and because divorce is considered the worse halal thing one can do, but you know what, It's there for a reason and there are conditions which one has to meet. So those who are getting divorces because their spouse aren't attractive enough or wealthy enough or interesting enough will have some serious answers to give in the hereafter along with the imams who blatantly looked the other way to grant the divorce.
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I'ld rather be selfish and demanding than catch AIDs thank you very much. And my story is like fluffy cotton candy compared to the stories of the women in my divorced muslim support group. And it's not just the women. The men have some equally horrible stories. I suffered for a decade because of the fear of social stigma and because divorce is considered the worse halal thing one can do, but you know what, It's there for a reason and there are conditions which one has to meet.** So those who are getting divorces because their spouse aren't attractive enough or wealthy enough or interesting enough will have some serious answers to give in the hereafter along with the imams who blatantly looked the other way to grant the divorce.**
Out of sheer curiosity, which of the three flawed traits got you into trouble?
Attraction, perhaps?
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Out of sheer curiosity, which of the three flawed traits got you into trouble?
Attraction, perhaps?
who are you directing this question to?
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^ To the one I quoted in my previous post.
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From a religious standpoint it's not a sin to divorce if you're no longer attracted to your partner..
Whether it's ethical is something else..
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^ Ethically correct, it isn’t. Pretty much a given for even the lousier of heads around to understand, I’d figure. :halo:
Besides, it only takes a complete idiot to not be able to determine the said attraction levels prior taking them sweet steps down the aisles of marriage.
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What I posted is what I have seen happening …. I already mention that in the start of my post that not all of them but majority of them ….. most of them are like this …. Because the environment they are raised in is totally different than Pakistan? & you are giving an example of a girl from pakistan lol I am not even talking about them …. I just posted about western ladies … WHY? Because there is no comparison between the two …..** girls from Pakistan are illiterate, weird, jahil, paindoo, uneducated etc etc I mean how can you compare them with highly qualified, extraordinary girls raised in the west? ** Living in the west, why you went for a Pakistani girl to begin with??
I cant even...
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From a religious standpoint it's not a sin to divorce if you're no longer attracted to your partner..
Whether it's ethical is something else..
Isn't religion supposed to be ethical, if nothing else.
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From a religious standpoint it's not a sin to divorce if you're no longer attracted to your partner..
Whether it's ethical is something else..
Wow, I've never heard this.
Can you please point out where you got this idea?
Also, 900th post! WOO!
While divorce in the case of abuse is justified, the numbers don’t lie, and two thirds of divorces in the West are initiated by women, a la Eat, Pray, Love and “finding myself” nonsense.
Abuse is intolerable. Attraction can be worked on if marriage is valued. Our generation is all about me me me and instant gratification so you can see how divorce is highly likely.
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a lot of you guys that are so judgmental on those that are divorced are all single!! Try to venture into an actual relationship/marriage first and then talk all this talk. We don't know and see what happens behind closed doors in a marriage and especially bad marriages.
We all want to experience love. Some rush into it impulsively being hopeful and end up face down just as intensely.
I have a huge fear of getting into a relationship. A good, life long, partner is what we want and what we want to be for another person. You have to have all these boxes checked in terms of similarities and compatibility and sure let's put attraction in there too and then when it comes to behavior we must find opposites. Then you need those ethical\moralistic boxes checked mutual respect and trust. It's amazing how good couples even find each other and I do believe a select few are lucky when it comes to relationships and certain marriages are made in heaven others are not so lucky! Let's not judge those that are not so lucky oh ye who are single.
^ I think youre confusing a lot of us with just bbcd.