Re: Rise in Divorce rates
I know of a couple in that very situation. Never had the suhaag raat stuff it was like no intimacy no love, care nothing from his side, cold and emotionless. He married her because don’t know how common it is but desi men that might be homosexual or not attracted to their wives don’t go around announcing it. It’s hidden it from society because it’s shameful for him and his family especially in conservative society for him to “come out”. Everything was hidden in the marriage, he was a total loner type and the frustration of being not attracted to his wife and not straight was taken out on his wife. Volatile and no happiness ever since the engagement til now. People marry for their families, they see it as their responsibility to their parents because desi parents give up so much for their kids so they cannot go against their wishes. It’s seen as selfish. Some desi men see it like that.
Redvelvet, i’m not sure if it’s impotence. Only the wife would know the details. But they have one child because both sets of parents wanted a grandchild of course.
How many gay desi men do we know that are proudly out? No desi man would announce that. The couple is divorced now after years and years of unhappiness.
Some of the things that the wife told me about when I was the shoulder to cry on as her friend, totally scared me about marriage. Especially when you first meet someone, you don’t know much about them and their history. And for those of us that don’t believe in dating like they do in the west, how do we know how straight men are or how they really act if men and women aren’t allowed all that before marriage. Please don’t call me naive.