Rights of a Divorced Girl

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Salaam…

This may seem like a rather dumb question, but I would like to know whether a divorced woman has less/different rights Islamically than other women?

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NO

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Do you actually mean rights or choices,

Girl who has never Married needs a Wali, and one who is divorced does not need one, that would be the only difference that comes to mind other than the idat time period.

But then again I am not the expert in these matters go to an Alim..

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I won't call it a dumb question, but I will call it an unclear question. I think a divorced woman has less rights over her husband (or former husband) than a non-divorced woman. The rights over children are also different. But here I am just stating the obvious. Which rights are you talking about??

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Sorry I was unclear... I don't know I've been told to observe iddah or something.... I don't quite know what that is...

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First of all I am sorry about your divorce. Observing iddah for a divorced woman is from the Quran and is a process you should go through. I am not too familiar with the whole iddah process, but I am sure someone can come along and post something scholarly. Or you can google.

I am not sure what is the link between iddah and a discussion over woman's rights.

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**Four months from separation is when the divorced Girl can marry again..:( **

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Ok im just completely confused! LOL.... ok so does a divorced woman have to do anything special like extra namaz and what are her rights concerning (re) marriage....?? And is she still her parents responsibility, or can she live on her own?

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It is always better to take your Parents advice when you decide about the second marraige, hopefully they can help you make good decision however if you are a self supporting adult, and you are not pregnant then there is no problem getting married again.

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Islamically, she has every right to re-marry, after hte iddah period (3 months) has been observed. If you're divorced, I dont' think there is any restriction on what to do or what not to do, just live your life like normal. Just don't get married in those 3 months.

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**120 days equals 4 months....is the iddat not 3 months **

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120 days is 4 months.

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The waiting period for a widdow is 4 months and ten days, while that for a divorced woman is 3 months; they're different.

In both cases, the intent was to have any pregnancy manifest itself. Also...to my understanding state laws (depending on what country you live in) may also require such a waiting period prior to re-marriage.

I don't think there's anything preventing you from seeking another spouse (i.e. getting engaged) within that time period, though...not too certain.

Definitely something you want to take up with a counselor at a local mosque....

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OK - its not three months just like that there is a reason behind it, in the divorced case, its three menstruation cycles (we are not children here so I am saying it clearly) so its almost three months. Its fixed 4 months & 10 days in widowers case.

Islamically, when woman is in during iddah, she must not come in contact with any man but her father, sons, brothers or nephews (those who she cannot marry). If after three cycles if she finds out that she is pregnant, she will have to wait until the child birth before she can marry anyone (some scholars dont agree on this one very issue).

Technically u cannot remarry ur former husband unless going through a process, known has "Halala" (many scholars dont agree with this either, & say its not necessary).

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^ Najim bhai, "halala" is considered haram by most of the scholars....
and everyone agrees that a woman cannot marry her former husband unless she has been married (in real sense of marriage) to some other person and divorced for whatever reason other than that of "halala"....

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^ Well, I am venturing a guess that marrying her former husband is probably not the first thing on the mind of the topic-starter right now. So rather then taking the discussion on a complete tangent, can we re-focus on requirements for iddah of divorced women?

Thanks.

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Ok my main question really is what is iddah and how would one go about observing that? In regards to abstaining from interaction with males… it basically means like no useless chitchat with na mehram and the like… right?:confused:

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yarr like whe bf/gf break up there is term called he or she is on rebound.
so iddah gives people time to come out of shock/emotional truma(if things were bad in final days of merriage)/ etc

So after 3 month people are in much better state of mind to make right decesion.

I think divorced girl is more like a women
as sind_sager wrote:

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Girl who has never Married needs a Wali, and one who is divorced does not need one, that would be the only difference that comes to mind other than the idat time period.

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I hope inshaa’Allah you are doing well. I really think that you should go and talk to an imam for more information because this website really isn’t the best place to seek an Islamic answer. I did find an answer as to the iddat of a divorced woman with direct references from the Qur’an. I hope it does clear up things for you.

  • never mind I can’t post the url since I don’t have more than 25 posts. But go to islam-qa.com and type in iddat in the search box. He gives references from the Qur’an and the hadith.
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Well, chitchat is okay but it mainly deals with getting married and intercourse, going out day/night, living with parents, etc. The term for that I think is four months and** ten days** for woman whose husband died.

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