Right age gap for marriage?

[dope]

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@shweetdreamz

**and get fat **and give the animal male a reason to cheat on her and then forgive him and then get depressed and then have it all boil up inside and then turn into a shreiking screaming lady and then age faster than man and then turn into desi auntie and then take it all out on the daughter in law and try to mold her too and thus the cycle continues.

So, if women become fat cows for not controlling her OWN weight, it is the men’s fault? Typical feminist entitlement.

:queen: —> I CHOSE to stay at home and CHOSE to eat Mc N cheese, and CHOSE not to excercise and i blame my husband for it.

[shweetdreamz]

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dope.... mixed gym =haram... they dont have a "curves" in every neighborhood.

[dope]

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Excuses…

[shireen143]

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well i just come in to this thread .......... and i agree with PCG ..... fifteen is the best.........

[shweetdreamz]

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dope u need to check how much time the average desi lady with kids has to spend on HERSELF.

[asimaan]

@PyariCgudia

Why is it heinous??

Isn't it like a fact that the Prophet married someone so much younger than him (whether she was 6 or 12 or 16, who knows), but she was much younger than him in age.

He asked for traditional families. I gave him the age that Pakistani tradition dictates.

he also married a 40 yr old when he was 25
what do u think of that?

@PyariCgudia

Haha. Let me fortell the future of this thread. People are going to be more agitated that I cited Aisha (R)'s young age as an example, and people will ignore this comment.

"develop according to your nature" "hard to mold her"

Lalas, your mom seems to really want some tight control over her bahu, ey? And lemme guess. Like a typical Pakistani guy, you're going to go haan haan along with your mom and then make some girl's life miserable by not allowing to, oh GOD FORBID, develop her own personality, so GOD FORBID, when your mom is wrong, she GOD FORBID, put your mom in place.

Oh typical Pakistani family matters.

thank u pyari--- i was just like ... am i reading this right??!!
oh my god that is the most absurd thing i have EVER read
its like some brainwashing project not a marriage!!!

[asimaan]

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@lalas2000

I would like to thank everyone for thier feedbacks…some ppl took me wrong by the word “molding” what i really meant was that i heard ppl saying young girls adapt the behavior according to thier huband’s nature as opposed to girls over 22. Since they have not defined goals or thier personalities are not fully developed. on the contrary girls above 21 or 22 are much matured and has already shaped personalites which sometimes leads to more compromises, expectation and demands after marriage.

PCG: Pakistani Traditional family doesn’t mean that family is backward or try to press a girl. It means ppl whose lifestyle is that they like to live together and women in the home are more “gheroloo” then todays totally independent and outgoing hi 5 type girls. again its a matter of personal choice and nature.

Few of my friends likes to have totally americanized girl while i like to have traditional “ghereloo” girl.

now that i have actually read the whole thread , things are still bothering me
lalas- i’m sorry but ur definition/clarification of molding does not help in the least, only confirms worst fears, whats wrong w/ ur wife having goals and dreams, so what if u and she have some differences in taste, marriage is a PARTNERSHIP, that means that if u want to take so much, u have to give a lot back too, shes a human with needs, other than molding herself to urs
and whats this about living separately after marriage, whats the point then!!! sorry to be blunt but is ur mom just looking for someone to do the housework for free??
please clarify

[MysticPapaya]

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@dope

So, if women become fat cows for not controlling her OWN weight, it is the men’s fault? Typical feminist entitlement.

:queen: —> I CHOSE to stay at home and CHOSE to eat Mc N cheese, and CHOSE not to excercise and i blame my husband for it.

I’m so very confused, are you a dude or a chick? Or is this nick shared???

[PrinceMS]

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Lets just have 2 : Under walli , bahir walli.
Problem solved :)

[Serious note:Anybody taken any feminist course? There is an actual term and a whole discussion on this - but I don't think its appropriate to use those words here :) ]

[Blitzkrieg]

@shweetdreamz

good i hope your sister has fun while she gets molded

^ No she is not like that

@shweetdreamz

^^ well it might be that some men marry for other reasons than to have a sex slave/ slave on hand. believe it or not. since they already have a maid. the other phakkar ones just need a substitute for their mommys.

^ If not the sex slave / slave, then where is all the fun in the marriage?

@shweetdreamz

actually i dont plan to marry a phakkar desi that cant afford a maid.

Chalo chalo kuch arse me khudi dimaag theek hoga jab tail bharre kisi beer-belly desi ke saath shaadi or das bachche honge jab koi gora ghans nahin dale ga!

[Rukhsarbibi]

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I think it might be easier for you to get an "imported" wife from Pak because she just might be easier to "mould" than someone brought up in the US. If my husband ever said he was going to mould me according to his wishes, I would have run millions of miles away from him :D A girl born in Pakistan with a high school education at most should be your best bet me thinks

[shweetdreamz]

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@Blitzkrieg

^ No she is not like that

then she has already been molded?

@Blitzkrieg

^ ^ If not the sex slave / slave, then where is all the fun in the marriage?

ask your sistah…after she gets married.

@Blitzkrieg

^ Chalo chalo kuch arse me khudi dimaag theek hoga jab tail bharre kisi beer-belly desi ke saath shaadi or das bachche honge jab koi gora ghans nahin dale ga!

you belong to sara only.

dont worry when i get married ill send you some leftover biryani. cant call phakkar desis to the wedding u understand na?

[Femme_Fatale]

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@umair_ahmed

Is it still normal to marry someone your own age?

One would wonder eh!

Just looking at this thread u can see that age doesn;t always effect maturity.

[Blitzkrieg]

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@shweetdreamz

then she has already been molded?

ask your sistah…after she gets married.

you belong to sara only.

dont worry when i get married ill send you some leftover biryani. cant call phakkar desis to the wedding u understand na?

Well she likes to mould people.

Don’t worry, you will be the phakkar one wanting to come to my marriage.. You will see…

You have no future unless you snatch a rich hubby!

[shweetdreamz]

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@Blitzkrieg

Well she likes to mould people.

Don’t worry, you will be the phakkar one wanting to come to my marriage.. You will see…

You have no future unless you snatch a rich hubby!

atleast there is room for an “unless”

u have no future. period.

P.S. stop sending me smoochie wali smiley.

[PyariCgudia]

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@Rukhsarbibi

I think it might be easier for you to get an "imported" wife from Pak because she just might be easier to "mould" than someone brought up in the US. If my husband ever said he was going to mould me according to his wishes, I would have run millions of miles away from him :D A girl born in Pakistan with a high school education at most should be your best bet me thinks

I am so on the same page with you there. His wanting to mold his future wife is way too scary of a statement. Sad thing is, that sort of thinking is so common.

[Goliko]

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I would try to marry a girl of or around my own age....i don't like much age difference between me & someone whom i have to live with my entire life.....

[lalas2000]

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@asimaan

now that i have actually read the whole thread , things are still bothering me
lalas- i’m sorry but ur definition/clarification of molding does not help in the least, only confirms worst fears, whats wrong w/ ur wife having goals and dreams, so what if u and she have some differences in taste, marriage is a PARTNERSHIP, that means that if u want to take so much, u have to give a lot back too, shes a human with needs, other than molding herself to urs
and whats this about living separately after marriage, whats the point then!!! sorry to be blunt but is ur mom just looking for someone to do the housework for free??
please clarify

asimaan: lol you need to read what i have written again.. my mom does not want me to live with my parents after marriage, cause my parents think my wife should have her privacy and space, so she can live the way she she wants…now everyone here is taking a wrong meaning just because i used the wrong word “molding”

i don’t understand then why you are claiming my mother wants the housework for free when she doesn’t want us to live as a joint family at the first place…

my simple question was what is the right age gap… and many elders told me to marry the young girl instead of someone close to your age.

[Goliko]

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^Still your ""thinking of molding(correct word or not)"" is quite erratic...whether you are going to live in your moms nest or ........are going to live seperately with your.........so well perseved (naive 'young' wifey).......

[PyariCgudia]

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Doesn’t even really make a difference. The guy thinks he can actually find someone who will make so much of an unnecessary and unfair saccrifice. He’ll get one of those girls who pretends at the chai parade that she’s so masoom, and then out comes the after marriage. Then lalas will be like any other haan-jee type husbands, who will be more worried about molding himself to his wife’s whims than the other way around.