I'm already fair, and too lovely. I'm just trying to help out fellow broskis.
Don't be too fair or you'll come across too gora which may confuse you with a white guy and dilute your desi looks. You need a bit of tan to pull off the Latin/Mediterranean guy look. lol. jk
besides the saying is guys should be"tall, dark handsome." Dark guys generally are seen as more appealing/better looking than fair ones. But people consider it opposite for girls where fair is seen as better.
If you’re referring to the post written by CPA about the high school drop-out cousin married to a doc…nothing in that post says that the woman got the breast implants “in order to get to get married”. Knowing our desi culture…I believe its a better assumption that she got the implants AFTER the wedding…probably paid for by her doc husband.
Even if you or someone else thinks its “too much”…so what? Why should a 3rd person’s opinion have any bearing on their marriage? She doesn’t mind getting breast implants and her husband is on the same page with her. If you don’t want to do something like this…then find a husband who’s compatible with YOUR beliefs. Why are we so focused on what another woman CHOSE to do in order to keep her husband happy?
Why? At the end of the day…doesn’t every man (even doctors) have the right to choose a spouse based on criteria’s that are important to THEM (whether its personality or looks)?
Besides, just in case you haven’t noticed the thread I’m posting below…there are women out there who will not “appreciate” personality over appearance.
I mean if she got breast implants because she felt empowered and was not pressured into it then that is ok. Of course as a third person I should not comment but if i was her friend and she asked me I would say natural is better and no guy should pressure her into it. I don’t think any guy will go under the knife for a girl. What if a girl in similar situation 6 years later came and posted here saying her husband left her for a girl who was prepared to have an even bigger breast implant. She shouldn’t complain then. He chose her for superficial looks and she chose him for superficial job status. Once that expires they are both free to find someone else to fill that gap. Then we’d all give her advice about how wrong it was so maybe it’s important to know the root cause of it.
Women judge based on job status and occupation but most women will prefer a guy with better personality than good looks. In
PCG has mentioned previously that she is willing to compromise with looks. And as a Pakistani girl, automatically she is quite good looking, so why shouldn’t she expect a good looking husband? Educated Pakistani girls have a reputation among other races for being loyal, reliable, intelligent and managing work/house balance well, so why should they feel like they have to downgrade those attributes in finding a partner.
More female celebrities settle with less good looking men then vice versa. In that thread weight was the issue and if a guy is working to lose that extra weight, for his own health, few would refuse. Things like breasts and other body parts are nt things people can easily change.
Women judge based on job status and occupation but most women will prefer a guy with better personality than good looks. In
PCG has mentioned previously that she is willing to compromise with looks. And as a Pakistani girl, automatically she is quite good looking, so why shouldn't she expect a good looking husband? Educated Pakistani girls have a reputation among other races for being loyal, reliable, intelligent and managing work/house balance well, so why should they feel like they have to downgrade those attributes in finding a partner.
For the female docs or other professionals here i have an interesting question. How many of you would marry someone much junior in profession like a nurse if youre a doctor, or a clerk/chaprassi if you're a business person or a male receptionist of a legal firm if you're a lawyer?
PCG, if you found a guy with all the qualities you were looking for but he was a Pakistani nurse working in the same hospital as you, would you marry him? Like if he agreed to do cooking when you were busy, said you could work as many hours as you wanted, was open minded and flexible about things after marriage and with raising kids, was moderately religious, wanted to be on shift same hours as you so he could assist you, was supportive of your job and role as he realises it's importance for you and his in laws were open minded and if age was not a factor for him,what would you say? what if he wasn't ambitious about his job but he wanted you to reach the highest heights you could?
There are guys out there who dont want to be part of the rat race and want to have a relaxed job/work life but are ok with their wife being part of it.
lol wut?
what? sachi mein all Pakistani girls are good looking. I have yet to meet a Pakistani girl who isn't good looking/hot but modestly dressed at the same time. Maybe it's just my magnetic personality and i only attract good looking Pakistani girls towards me as friends. But really i have a lot of evidence to support this fact. As a Pakistani guy you must know this fact well. I am going to get an infarction for this comment yaar :( please Khuda ke liye yahan aisi baat nahi karte yahan gs cafe mein karte hain na. shayad mujhe bhi un pe crush hai :/ lol jk.
And as a Pakistani girl, automatically she is quite good looking, so why shouldn't she expect a good looking husband?
Wow....so many things wrapped up in such a simple statement. So all Pakistani girls are "automatically quite good looking" but only non-Pakistani girls can be ugly?
And what about non-PakistanI women who aren't "automatically quite good looking".....should they not expect a good looking husband?
And is it ok for a woman to reject a man based ONLY on his looks (ie. after seeing a picture) b/c she herself is good looking?
Educated Pakistani girls have a reputation among other races for being loyal, reliable, intelligent and managing work/house balance well, so why should they feel like they have to downgrade those attributes in finding a partner.
1) The part in bold.....is that a personal opinion or a proven fact?
2) As for the 2nd part.....let me ask this......why should a Pakistani man (or any man for that matter) downgrade ANY of their expectations as long as they can find a woman that meets their criteria? Going by the threads in this forum.....clearly its not the men who are having trouble find a spouse. So as long at there is a supply of women to meet their demands.....why should ANY man out there compromise at all?
Wow....so many things wrapped up in such a simple statement. So all Pakistani girls are "automatically quite good looking" but only non-Pakistani girls can be ugly?
And what about non-PakistanI women who aren't "automatically quite good looking".....should they not expect a good looking husband?
And is it ok for a woman to reject a man based ONLY on his looks (ie. after seeing a picture) b/c she herself is good looking?
1) The part in bold.....is that a personal opinion or a proven fact?
2) As for the 2nd part.....let me ask this......why should a Pakistani man (or any man for that matter) downgrade ANY of their expectations as long as they can find a woman that meets their criteria? Going by the threads in this forum.....clearly its not the men who are having trouble find a spouse. So as long at there is a supply of women to meet their demands.....why should ANY man out there compromise at all?
Why are you so angry for? Jesus Christ. Pakistani girls are the most ugly looking creatures I have ever seen. The insides are even worse and they are wannabes.
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Happy?
Edit: Pakistani female species are beautiful. Got bombarded really hard.
what? sachi mein all Pakistani girls are good looking. I have yet to meet a Pakistani girl who isn't good looking/hot but modestly dressed at the same time. Maybe it's just my magnetic personality and i only attract good looking Pakistani girls towards me as friends. But really i have a lot of evidence to support this fact. As a Pakistani guy you must know this fact well. I am going to get an infarction for this comment yaar :( please Khuda ke liye yahan aisi baat nahi karte yahan gs cafe mein karte hain na. shayad mujhe bhi un pe crush hai :/ lol jk.
Why are you so angry for? Jesus Christ. Pakistani girls are the most ugly looking creatures I have ever seen. The insides are even worse and they are wannabes.
/s
Happy?
Edit: Pakistani female species are beautiful. Got bombarded really hard.
Thanks yaar :) jo apne last line likha. Kaafi amazing hai Pakistani larkiyan. Aap apne desh ke khawateen ki tareef kariye bahut zaroori hai. i tell that to all my guy gs friends. I know jo aapne pehle likha tha you didn't mean aur woh sarcastic comment tha. Pakistani boys bhi good looking hote hain. But as this thread is on pakistani women unki tareef hi karte hain
Shayad meri galti hai yaar ki main desi hoon. Maybe if i was a white girl they would believe me and accept compliments without facts and figures but main to desi hoon mere comments ka kaun yakeen karega.
did you read the thread where it was mentioned that a girl in order to get married to a doc worked a lot on her appearance and got breast implants? I mean that's too much. Even male doctors should appreciate personality over appearance. Why shouldn't such a demand exist for female daaactarnis?
did you read the original post in this thread?
pcg in this thread was referring to a trend she seems to have noted, where girls are "bagging" male docs with potential from pk and then dump them if they become less ambitious or unwilling to relocate.
my response had been to point out that each woman has the right to make the right decision for herself/her situation and that most people in the rishta process (male and female) will weight factors such as education, location, money in their decision.
what does your answer have to do with the original post?
not only is our response off topic , you've also misread the situation you outlined. in that case ... its an already married woman who has chosen to go to for breast implants because perhaps she feels the pressure to maintain her looks. you are making assumptions about why she feels that pressure. I read no where that her husband requested it or that he judges her on her looks ....
male docs and female docs can appreciate or not whatever the heck they want not what they should ... its their choice! that was the whole point.
Maybe because modji aap ne Pakistani larkiyon ki khoobsurati aur as a result khud apni khoobsurati ko accept nahi kiya. Why don’t you just accept it and believe it as solid fact. If i post all the evidence yeh thread off topic ho jayega..phir infarction ka silsila..phir se dard bhare din aur raatein katengi. Phir ban hone ka darr. Khab tak chalega yeh silsila. Hum dost kyun nahi ho sakte? We come in peace and dosti.
Maybe because modji aap ne Pakistani larkiyon ki khoobsurati aur khud apni khoobsurati ko accept nahi kiya. Why don't you just accept it and believe it as solid fact.
1) Please do not make assumptions about my ethnic background. I could be Pakistani, or another ethnicity, or maybe even a mix of more than 1.
2) My background aside....please keep in mind that there are plenty of non-Pakistani members on this forum. Not only that....quite a few Pakistanis here are married to non-Pakistanis.
3) We all have flaws. One of mine happens to be that I question everything and do not believe something as a "fact" unless its proven. There is nothing wrong with sharing opinions. That's what this forum is all about. And I'm all about learning new facts as long as there is reliable evidence to back it up.
If i post all the evidence yeh thread off topic
You are absolutely right. It would be off topic for you to post your evidence here. However, nothing is preventing you from opening a new thread, and making a new topic out of this. :)
did you read the original post in this thread?
pcg in this thread was referring to a trend she seems to have noted, where girls are "bagging" male docs with potential from pk and then dump them if they become less ambitious or unwilling to relocate.
my response had been to point out that each woman has the right to make the right decision for herself/her situation and that most people in the rishta process (male and female) will weight factors such as education, location, money in their decision.
what does your answer have to do with the original post?
not only is our response off topic , you've also misread the situation you outlined. in that case ... its an already married woman who has chosen to go to for breast implants because perhaps she feels the pressure to maintain her looks. you are making assumptions about why she feels that pressure. I read no where that her husband requested it or that he judges her on her looks ....
male docs and female docs can appreciate or not whatever the heck they want not what they should ... its their choice! that was the whole point.
I guess i did misread it. Sorry about that. And if this response goes into off topic territory i will accept my fate of infarctions.
I just felt bad for that woman who felt pressured to get a breast implant especially from a doctor husband. It's not a desi thing lots of white women get pressured too but if she was made to feel accepted for who she is and if her husband assured her she may nt feel insecure. I guess in return she gets the privilege of marrying a doctor so it might be a fair exchange for her.
I would think a doctor husband or wife would value personality/someone intellectual for a life partner. But i can be completely wrong and everyone is entitled to choose someone for whatever reasons. I was thinking if it can be seen as a social status/prestige thing for women to have doctor husbands why can't guys see it as a prestige/positive thing to marry a female doc? I think maybe that is the point PCG wants to make.
I replied on that thread and supported the OP's decision to go abroad for a husband as they had different goals now. I don't think she chose him because he was just a doc maybe he had other personality features she liked.
I think both guys and girls, docs or not, are superficial in different ways. While guys choose looks, girls chose reputation. How many Pakistani female docs would marry male Pakistani nurses no matter how accomidating and understanding they were? Do you know any who would?
I find it hilarious that out of all the posts in Life1 today…MY post is the one that grabbed you as being “angry”. On a more serious note…
Which part of my post makes you think I’m angry?