Who doesn’t want to be good? I think all of us would like to be “good”. Does anyone actually want to be “bad”? I doubt it.
When some of us do bad things, or turn out bad, when we take up the wrong path, granted that we are responsible for our actions and every individual has independent thinking and decision faculties, but still, if you peer deep into someone’s life, you can always find reasons that made them take a wrong decision and choose the wrong path.
People might tell you you are making excuses for your weaknesses and faults but isn’t that a bit harsh? I mean, how unaffected can a human being remain by his surroundings and the events happenning in his life?
We had an uncle who came from a very good family and was a bright young student. He was studying medicine in a very good med school, had a lot going for him in life. One day, a political leader was giving a speech in his college and made fun of one of his teachers. He (our uncle) stood up and defended his teacher. The political leader got angry, had secret service goons pick him up and get him beaten. Since then he took up the path to deterioration. He dropped out of college, took up bad habits, got involved with the wrong crowd…and a lot of other stuff. He also ended up hurting his family a lot in the process.
I know its all about self control, how strong are you to pull yourself out of a ditch and continue walking on the path of life steadily…they say “mayoosi kufr hae”…but still…life is not that simple…sometimes it becomes so difficult to take oneself out of “mayoosi” that a person just becomes indifferent to everything.
I guess one should draw the line when his actions start affecting others. If someone hurt you it doesn’t give you the right to hurt another person. However its also worth noting that it is indeed those who have been abused that become the biggest abusers, its human nature and unless one has strong self control one does succumb to this trend.
Life is a test but does God really expect human beings to be so strong that we come out unscathed from fires? God loves us more than 70 mothers. He is Beneficient and Kind beyond belief. Then how can He want us to go through such a gruelling test?
Hmmm…
I guess the only solution is that one should look at those who have been given bigger tests, have gone through more difficult circumstances, yet they are still grateful and have a smile on their faces. Gratefulness to the Almighty under all circumstances is the only solution.
